I’m not really sure what I want from this thread, maybe just to vent or see if anyone else understands.
My mother is late 60’s and moved away several years ago leaving myself and my sibling (both late teens) homeless. We both managed to get back on our feet and have made good lives for ourselves but my sibling is very difficult to maintain a relationship with. I suspect due to the impact of our childhood. They are also NC with parent - just for background. Our mother was/is an alcoholic. She has apparently stopped but she lives so far away, I have no way to know if this is true. I strongly suspect she is still drinking (and has done since my childhood).
Anyway, after my mother left to move in with a man she met two weeks prior, I was very angry for a very long time. Still am! I have always noticed that she is emotionally absent and any interactions we have feel disconnected and not very genuine, almost superficial. I think she has always been the same but now I am older I suppose I am more aware of it. I have finally gone almost no contact after she made a comment about my daughter who has not long been diagnosed with a neurodiversity and enough was enough. She seems to lack awareness about other people’s feelings and how she comes across. It always seems to be about her, how things affect her and how bad her life has been. She’s often said how lonely it was raising kids and being alone so that’s why she drinks.
I am struggling to understand what I am dealing with here. I’m constantly on edge and as she is aging I’ve began to fear her turning up on my doorstep for me to care for her. She has already told me prior to NC that this is what she thought would happen. She has also left herself vulnerable as she has no legal claim on her partners assets if he were to die or ask her to leave and would likely have to present as homeless.
In need of wise words and thank you for reading. Sorry it’s so long, but this is the short version. 🤦🏼♀️