Would this comment offend you?

[Sugarpuff22]

DH has been diagnosed with a life threatening illness.
He will have to have surgery and 6 months of treatment.

My DM has not spoken to him for over a year. It's a long story but basically she didn't think he was treating me right.

DM is very full on, phoning and messaging me around 3 times a day. I could go more into this but want to get to the point.

So, I told her today about DH illness. She said "Well, you know how I feel about him. But, he is the father of my grandchildren and I wouldn't wish that on anyone".

I really don't know how to take this? Would like to know your thoughts please?

Btw no affair or abuse is involved in our marriage.

@pinkyredrose

Im not pissed off with her. However, she has blamed all my problems on my husband and taken no responsibility for her part in my mental health.

Thank you to everyone else for your kind replies. I do tend to overthink stuff and just needed clarification.

Yes, I would be pissed off. There's no need to make that comment; you know she doesn't like him.
This is about a much bigger thing and her feelings are kind of irrelevant compared to this.
She could have asked how are you/if there's any help she could offer, about his treatment.
Sounds like she's making it about her.
I think it's a really horrible thing to say.

Thank you @Alectrona

Thats kind of how I was taking. Kind of like, look what a bigger person I am?

Not sure? Like I said I sometimes get confused 🤦🏼‍♀️

Thanks for replying @Sugarpuff22. I'd ignore the many people saying it's an honest comment.

It might well be, but it's totally irrelevant in this situation.

It's an unnecessary, nasty thing to say in the circumstances.

Only you know the relationship. Trust what you feel. 🌺

Honesty is not always the best policy and in these circumstances it sounds like she was pretending to be the bigger person but it comes across as mean and sarcastic. She could have at least pretended to give a fuck about you. I wouldn't be happy with that.