Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Original poster

Is this a sign that he’s not over his ex ?

54 replies

Brandyhyper · 17/08/2024 07:59

His ex blocked him, he blocked her back after finding that out. He was blocked for a month and then he recently unblocked her, even though she still has him blocked. He said he unblocked her because he was clearing out his block list on social media ?

does this sound like a man that is ready for a new relationship?

OP posts:
Blackberriesandcobwebs · 17/08/2024 08:02

No

EVHead · 17/08/2024 08:05

No. Sounds like a man full of shit.

Bubblegum922 · 17/08/2024 08:09

No

Original poster
Brandyhyper · 17/08/2024 08:21

EVHead · 17/08/2024 08:05

No. Sounds like a man full of shit.

So he’s not over her ?

OP posts:
fuckingbastard · 17/08/2024 08:37

Well it's all about his ex isn't it ? How long has he been in his previous relationship ? Sometimes expectations can be unrealistic. No he's not over her. It might not even be that he loves her still but it still hurting too much to move on. I would not date this man. He is 100% in a grey area. He has to sort himself out. Sorry OP.

DatingDinosaur · 17/08/2024 08:44

No, he's not over her.

It does make me wonder what he did that was so bad his ex felt the need to block him in the first place instead of just calling it a day and moving on with her life. Was he harassing her? Even more childish is his blocking her because she blocked him.

Original poster
Brandyhyper · 17/08/2024 08:49

fuckingbastard · 17/08/2024 08:37

Well it's all about his ex isn't it ? How long has he been in his previous relationship ? Sometimes expectations can be unrealistic. No he's not over her. It might not even be that he loves her still but it still hurting too much to move on. I would not date this man. He is 100% in a grey area. He has to sort himself out. Sorry OP.

Love ? They were together for less than 6 months …

OP posts:
Biggaybear · 17/08/2024 08:52

Well, considering the go to advice on here is "dump & block" then perhaps he was just doing that (the blocking part) and then realised it was childish & unblocked her.

But this is Mumsnet where all men can't be trusted & are lusting after their ex's. 🤷‍♂️

Original poster
Brandyhyper · 17/08/2024 08:54

Biggaybear · 17/08/2024 08:52

Well, considering the go to advice on here is "dump & block" then perhaps he was just doing that (the blocking part) and then realised it was childish & unblocked her.

But this is Mumsnet where all men can't be trusted & are lusting after their ex's. 🤷‍♂️

Edited

I agree with this does anyone else ?

OP posts:
Fraaahnces · 17/08/2024 08:55

Who clears out their blocked list…. Really?

AquaFurball · 17/08/2024 08:59

How long have you been together?

Why are you having such a specific conversation about his ex?

Don't know anyone who clears out their social media block list either. You block someone, you move on.

IMO he's checking to see if she's unblocked him so he's looking to get back in contact.

Allie47 · 17/08/2024 09:02

No he's still holding a torch. No-one clears out their block list, he was checking if he was still blocked and wanted to see what she was up to. Very juvenile 💐

spuddy4 · 17/08/2024 09:04

I don't know if I'm missing the point but surely if she blocked him first he wouldn't have been able to block her back?

Original poster
Brandyhyper · 17/08/2024 09:10

spuddy4 · 17/08/2024 09:04

I don't know if I'm missing the point but surely if she blocked him first he wouldn't have been able to block her back?

Your right but the thing with instagram is if you guys still have DMs together even if she blocked him he can go to their DMs and block her back that way

OP posts:
fuckingbastard · 17/08/2024 09:23

Brandyhyper · 17/08/2024 08:49

Love ? They were together for less than 6 months …

Show quote history

Thanks for the update.

SamW98 · 17/08/2024 09:26

Regardless of anything the whole thing sounds very juvenile and immature. Why on earth is he talking to you about blocking his ex? She’s obviously still on his mind

Original poster
Brandyhyper · 17/08/2024 20:09

SamW98 · 17/08/2024 09:26

Regardless of anything the whole thing sounds very juvenile and immature. Why on earth is he talking to you about blocking his ex? She’s obviously still on his mind

Do you think he unblocked her because she is still on his mind ?

OP posts:
BatFaceGrrrll · 17/08/2024 20:11

With kindness OP, how the bloody hell do we know why he's blocked her / unblocked her / repeat ad nauseum?

We have no idea.

I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you're a couple of people in your 20s. Because much past this you honestly need to stop giving this head space

C1N1C · 17/08/2024 20:12

He wouldn't have blocked her if he wanted to be with her.

I'd unblock someone after the dust settles in the hope that maybe good relations could resume.

Lovemusic82 · 17/08/2024 20:14

Brandyhyper · 17/08/2024 20:09

Do you think he unblocked her because she is still on his mind ?

Show quote history

Yes

Roryno · 17/08/2024 20:15

Is he actually telling you how/when he blocks/unblocks her? That’s weird in itself

Original poster
Brandyhyper · 17/08/2024 20:18

C1N1C · 17/08/2024 20:12

He wouldn't have blocked her if he wanted to be with her.

I'd unblock someone after the dust settles in the hope that maybe good relations could resume.

I agree with this.

OP posts:
Original poster
Brandyhyper · 17/08/2024 21:45

I personally don’t think he unblocked her because he still has feelings for her

OP posts:
Josephinesnapoleon · 17/08/2024 21:47

Brandyhyper · 17/08/2024 21:45

I personally don’t think he unblocked her because he still has feelings for her

Edited

Yes you do, or you’d not ask.

fuckingbastard · 17/08/2024 21:48

Yah right. And my name is Frogmore the second...