Partner works away

[Sengland01]

Hi can anyone else relate. I've been with my partner for a year now and he works away sometimes up to 4 weeks at at time and can be as little as 1 week.

He comes back for say a week a bit and then away again.

Am starting to feel disconnected from him and feel like the important bits he is not around for or when I just need him if I've had a bad day and i just need a hug. Often by the time he is back the issue has passed me by or I've talked it over with friends.

But I've wanted a partner who can help me emotionally and the phone calls when he is away does not really happen. We did try and make an effort but it just goes back to texting and with different time zones it can be difficult.

Not sure where to go with this relationship to be honest. Feel like we get on and have some good times when he's home but it is difficult at times.

He has a government job so he's mostly away and then when back goes into the office.

I have a number of things to deal with including a sick mum and although am very independent myself, the more time is going on, the more am starting to think I might need someone who is more available as starting to feel on my own.

We don't really fight and he's very chilled and does what he can for me but emotionally am not sure a part time partner is enough. Just such as shame to give up a nice person because of their work.

Guess I thought it was fine at the start as get to do my own thing but no so sure anymore.

My DH is away 6/7 months a year ( out of UK), first is 3 months then comes back for 5/6 weeks then off again for 3/4 months.
sometimes we don't see each other for the whole time and sometimes I travel to see him/him to me.
This works so well for us and we manage the time we do spend together very well, we speak/FaceTime every day and message.
It wasn't this way for the first 7/8 years of marriage but has been for the last 10 years, the kids are now adults so all good.
I love having the freedom to see friends, travel and have me time and make the most of it. It can be a good thing as long as you are both on the same page and communicate well, keep the bond and closeness then comes easily.

Simply put, this relationship is not right for you. You need someone who is around more & there for you when you need him.

He might be a lovely bloke but you can't change his job & how he works.

Best end it now. No need for all the pain & anguish.