Did he see me coming ?

[AwkwardAadvark]

I wonder if this applies to my ex. I'll give the short version.
Ex and I met. He was 10 years older and living at his mums after a marriage breakdown. We got together. I had my own house.
When it got more serious He moved it and we started looking for a bigger house. He couldn't get a mortgage. Said his ex had got him in debt so everything in my name. He was taking driving lessons and using my car. Anyway like a dickhead I married him. Honestly I didn't really want to so I don't know why I did it.
3 years later we split. He wouldn't show me his bank account ( insisted on separate accounts) or drop our child at nursery which was next door to his work as he wanted to go the gym. I also found out he'd took our a 30k loan. So he asked for 15k out the house but accepted 5k.
He's now moved in with a mutual friend who surprise surprise has her own house. He was married before me and I think that he did the same to her

Sounds like it. Sorry.

Yes he saw you coming but lucky you now to see the back of him! Make sure he looks after his child but other than that enjoy the peace.

Now he's with mutual friend he's seeing dc about 30 percent of the time and being disney dad. When he wasn't he didn't stay at his dad's house for 6 weeks at a time. He's so lazy

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No one falls in love faster than a homeless narcissist

Yup, whether or not he was doing it consciously, I could not say. But yes, he absolutely targeted you. @speakball has it right.

SIL had a vey similar experience. In her case, I am 90% certain exBIL didn't do it on purpose but I DO think that he probably tried it on other women first and they didn't buy it so those relationships didn't work out - eg first few dates, the sob story comes out and a woman like me would probably think, "he's nice, but I can't deal with the drama/the incompetence/the pity" while SIL thought, "poor guy, he's had a tough time I should be accommodating". So men like this land up with kind, empathetic woman like you or SIL because the others tossed him back.

Please warn your mutual friend not to marry him...

He’s like a little gigolo.

Yep - 100.% serial cocklodger.

I won't be warning her or saying anything. It makes me look like the bitter ex. Unfortunately if they do marry she'll just have to find out.

My now ex moved in with his ex R and she already had a mortgage etc etc. He allegedly from other people's mouths never paid the bills or bought food. He had a bad credit score and she ended up buying him a car in her name which she removed. He owed her at least 3 grand on separation for garden furniture, dogs etc. He cheated on her. Drank and smoked all his money away. He had "chronic depression" and used that as an excuse for everything.
Apparently he made everything awkward in the relationship whenever they tried to make plans he'd clam up.

He met me 2 years after they split. we have never lived together. But he's easily had £10,000 out of me in 3 years. He's took the absolute piss in every way. Cheated. Took drugs. Drank. Mentally abused me.

I was manipulated into the marriage as he couldn't live without me. Well he's still alive so what a liar!