What is this??

[Imapebble]

Ladies please help me identify this partial packaging!

I'm pretty sure I already know what it is, I've used enough of them, I just need to be 100% sure.

I wasn't sure which section to post in so I hope it's ok in here!

For context, I found this on the bedroom floor after my partner left for work. It isn't mine and if it is what I think then he has no need for one.

I agree it's time for the OP to question what's going on, but not to question herself. Don't you realise that if you're living with a man who's living some kind of double life you feel like you're going crazy? There was a woman on a thread yesterday who was on anti-depressants because her husband was telling her nothing was going on. It was the same for me and I know it's true for a lot of women. There are few things worse than being gaslit. Unfortunately, you do come across as a dick for suggesting she works on herself.

Ok well again I wasn't trying to be a dick. I don't think the op is crazy. I've been there myself. I was tying myself in knots, trying to work out what he was up to and looking for clues in everything. In the end it didn't matter what he was doing or with who. The constant looking for evidence was more destructive to my life, and I had to make the decision to leave and get some help to work out why I cared about myself so little I was prepared to live like that.

The guarding his phone is all the proof id need. Just put yourself out of your misery. Spring on him tonight you want access to his phone to check something and if he says no get some respect and leave as this isn't a relationship anyone deserves. Also if he storms off with phone and brings it back 5mins later clearly this gives you your answer too as he will delete everything.

When you look check archived chat sections in WhatsApp and also if you scroll down the bottom of chats you can create a locked pin only folder so check that also.

I'm sorry you're going through this pain & anguish I hope you find the outcome you are seeking. Good luck OP @Imapebble

Covid test?

If it has been used by him and OW I'd assume they'd more likely used it to check she wouldn't get pregnant than to up her chances on the cusp of menopause, which seems a but far fetched to me.

I know that a friend of mine and her husband do not flush the toilet in en suite if they have only done a wee,so could he have tested your urine for menopause/pregnancy?

You don't sound the least bit unhinged OP, but I think you really need to direct all your energy and access to his money to retrain and siphon off as much as you can for an exit fund.

Don't challenge him, whsts the point?
Stay calm, get organised and get out.

It would be diluted so how could he do that?

Yes it will but sometimes people don't think or not very bright

You don't sound unhinged to me op. Not being able to trust your partner is horrible, everybody who has been where you are right now feels like they're going crazy!
I don't know whether or not he's sleeping around etc, but your gut is definitely screaming at you that something is wrong. You must listen to it.

What's your housing situation? I'm worried for you financially because you're not married. Do you own your home in joint names etc?

You sound like me 18 months ago. Sleeping on the phone is such a red flag because that is not normal. My ex did this too and I brought it up several times so he stopped being so cagey. I also thought I was going insane and looked through the whole house for something but there was nothing. Then one day I checked out his van and found the evidence I needed. Also he had a secret phone so that explained why he wasn’t protecting his phone anymore.

Our home is thankfully mortgaged in my name only. I decided to purchase when I was pregnant because the rental market was so insecure. At that time he was a carer for his relative (the one that died) so he was living with them, and my mortgage provider refused to consider an applicant that wouldn't be living here.

The deposit was solely mine and I paid the mortgage alone for the first few years but he has paid it since I stopped working completely around 6 years ago, so would obviously be entitled to something.

He's a high earner so could easily afford to get another home without taking anything from this one, but I know he wouldn't just walk away easily

There is a OW involved.

Rather than focusing on him, focus on yourself. Get your ducks in order. Get all your paperwork ready before any confrontation.

That's a relief,.at least you've got some financial security.

Just playing devil's advocate here, and I don't want to minimise your feelings at all, but could this be some kind of mid life crisis?
You've described him suffering a bereavement, and then he went off the rails so to speak. He's obviously going out drinking at every opportunity etc which must be really shit for you. I'm just wondering if it's something like that rather than him seeing other women? His mates sound very immature, are they married or cohabiting too?

I hope you get to the bottom of it, whatever he's up to. You should get a free session with a solicitor to get some idea of where you stand.