Just that really. I got the papers yesterday over the legalities after a break down of a long abusive relationship. I have finally reached the point I understand it wasn’t my fault and it is the way he is and will continue to be. That the next person will not get this polished better version and he will do what he did to me his exes and the next person. Sadly.
I have read lots of threads on here and thought maybe this thread could be a good place to share experiences for those in similar situations to understand it will not get better and to leave.
I realised I’ve read mumsnet for many years now and have never seen a comment or a thread where a guy has been abusive and changed. Sure with infidelity there are some but I feel that is a grey area and for those reading who are stuck in an abusive relationship and still clinging on to hope, it may benefit them to try reach radical acceptance that they won’t change no matter what you do.