What is this guys intention?

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There is this guy at work who has been checking me out for months. Not subtly at all. I’ve kind of looked away when I’ve notice as it seemed like a bad idea and I’m kind of shy. He had come over to my desk/team a couple of times, had a bit of a joke with me ect but I’ve been keeping it super professional.
He has now stopped coming up to me but still looks at me a lot. I think he is attracted to me. The last couple of weeks I’ve been feeling attracted to him. I’m worried I’ve missed my chance for being off-ish with him before and not engaging passed nessasary colleague chat when he has approached. He probably thinks I’m not keen.
I know work place relationships are not usually a good idea but he is in a totally different team and works on a different floor to me. We don't work together at all, just in the same company.
As he still looks at me I’m wondering if I have a chance. Do you think he is just looking or would be open to starting something/getting to know me better with the potential to date?
Im wondering if maybe he just likes to look but doesn’t want to progress things or maybe he was waiting for me to reciprocate his interest?
I basically want to show him I’m interested without totally embarrassing myself in the event he is not! If he is interested he is probably feeling the same! Any advice?

I would just act more encouraging towards his interest in you if he’s still displaying it. Like hold his eye contact next time until he looks away or for a few seconds “too long”. If you talk again, flirt a little bit or just hold eye contact and laugh/banter.

Is there any any way you could engineer a reason to need to talk to him about something?

There’s no ‘timeline’ to such things. In my personal experience people who are attracted to you at work often stay interested for years and years.

Say hi next time you’re both in the same space and ask something as innocent as how his day is going, and see how he responds. If he is interested he’ll try turn it into a conversation.

Work chat? Any reason why you could start a conversation with him on there about something and see what happens?

If you have an active LinkedIn, add him and see what happens?

It’s riskier for guys to make moves in the workplace these days so if you’re interested in something more than a bit of fun flirtation to make the day go quicker you’ve got to be more proactive than in ‘normal’ dating.

Bit of caution… is he just checking you out or does he generally check women out? I had someone like this at my work that just flirted with lots of people whereas I thought he was into me.