What do you do if your DH doen't want another baby??

[LoopyJJ]

We already have a DS who is now 2 yrs, he wasnt planned but was a pleasent surprise. DH & I always talked about having children but never really decided on the 'right time'.
Then DS came along and we were both over joyed and have loved every minuite of parenthood so far.....

The problem now is im so broody and really want to have another baby but my DH isnt intrested at all. He says that one is enough and he isnt ready for another child. He is not to far away from 40 (another 3 yrs) so im sure it also an aged issue for him.

What do you i do?....

Talk, talk and talk. Ask him why he doesn't want another and try to tell him the good points of having more dc.

only thing you can do, really

my little sister 's ds is 4yrs old and her dsh keeps naming a date for her to come off the pill and then changes his mind,she is very upset as she longs for another baby ,they have had problems with him cheating in the past and i wonder that he is trying to tell her something ie that their relationship isnt going anywhere so why complicate things with another child.

i agree with mamag.not alot you can do except lots of talking and let him know why you feel so strongly about it.either that or new dh(joking btw).dh and i never agree at same time about having another-great contraception!-but it can literally change every 5 minutes in this house.

Ive recently had this discussion with DP.
He feels too old to be starting with nappies again and to be honest im not a 'natural' mother.
I've decided instead to quit work and go back to college to retrain in something I really want to do, i'm quite relieved tbh, and I know it would have been the wrong decison to have another child in the end.
We already have 2 though.

Perhaps point out to him that (if you think this way of course) that you never imagined you ds to be an only child and that he needs company, also the longer you leave it the bigger the age gap between the kids will be.
And of course, kids keep you young (when you get enough sleep).
Good luck x

We have this situation. My dp and i have 1 dd and he has 2 children with his ex wife. I really wanted another child but having talked endlessly he definitely doesn't. I am coming to accept this because he is not going to change his mind but i do sometimes resent the fact that i don't seem to have been heard.
No easy answer i'm afraid.

I wish I could help - I'm in the same situation, and dh won't even consider another child. As Lulu said, there's no easy answer.

Glad im not the only one who is in this boat, thanks ladies

hassle! our DD is 2 now and we said we would have another one when she was one, obviously that never happened and DH has avoided the topic. Since christmas i have been 'talking' about another baby so much its almost hassling. I even start conversations about what we could call our child!! Eventually DH agreed we could start trying! He too is 40 next year and its all age related im sure!

Funny about the age thing

DH is 40 in a couple of months and despite the fact that we said from the start we were going to have more than one, whenever I bring the subject up he clams up

I can't, atm, anyway for a variety of reasons but it would be lovely to at least discuss it.

Hey ho.

cry everytime u see a baby or someone tell u they are prenant!!!(joke-btw)

im in the same situation too- altho i wouldnt want another just yet, i would like at least 1 more (2 more would be my ideal) in the future but DP has said he never wants anymore kids and even said he would have a vasectomy!!!!

ive decided not to mention it for a while and hope that maybe he will feel diferent in a few years time or maybe i will- who knows

I've recently been thinking I would like another child too (have 2 already). Dh and I have always agreed 2 is enough and we had no plans for anymore. I haven't dared to tell him I've changed my mind yet I'm working up to it, but I'm worried he'll be dead set against it tbh... We're both late thirties too, so age is definitely a factor.

as is money...