Boyfriend and insecurity - am I the issue?

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Been with boyfriend for two years. Both have kids from previous relationships, but have not met. Bf is kind, generous and someone I love very much. At the beginning of our relationship he was very unrestrained, showered me with compliments and was very open about his feelings. However, 2 years down the line he has became almost like a
robot…never tells me he loves me or what the future holds etc. I’ve tried to raise this with him but he’s an awful
communicator. It has started to affect my self esteem. In every other way he is great - am I just too needy in yearning for his reassurance? Im
considering ending the relationship but I’m frightened that I’m letting go of someone wonderful because of my own insecurity.

I think it’s always the honeymoon phase for at least the first year- if not the first couple, and then you start to see the real person. This is who he is and you have to decide if it’s compatible with what you want x

If the relationship is making you feel bad then you are right to consider if it is working.

How does he react when you tell him how you feel?

My dh an I had a long honeymoon phase (about three years) lots of sex, cuddles, kisses and declarations of love.
When things settled down and sex was more a weekly thing the other stuff stopped. I really struggled at first as I'm very tactical and complimentary but wasn't getting anything back. We talked about it and he made more effort for a while then it dropped off, so I raised it again. This went on for quite a few years.
Then once we had kids even if I raised it dh no longer had the mental energy to facilitate.
In the end I had to accept he's not a cuddly, romantic person. He does get me nice cards, gifts and is happy to go on dates/mini breaks, will give me a cuddle if I want one and does kisses goodbye . So I have to accept that day to day he's not a overly affectionate/complimentru person

Thanks for your replies. He is affectionate in person, holds doors open, lots of kisses and hand holding. It’s the lack of words I struggle with. I think I need to either accept that’s just who he is and stop worrying he doesn’t really love me, or accept that we just aren’t compatible long term.

Does he demonstrate how he feels? Is he loving in other ways?