AIBU expecting him to help?

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Sorry for the long rambling post. I’ve just burst into tears, having to play referee (AGAIN!) to DC whilst trying to quickly tidy up, I can’t keep plodding on like this.
DH works 14 days straight, 12 hour night shifts and sleeps usually until around 2pm- by this point I’ve usually taken the DC out to keep them entertained as it’s difficult to keep them happy (and fairly quiet) whilst he sleeps. By the time we get home they usually see him for an hour or so, if at all.
I understand he needs sleep but during the time we’re out, nothing is done. Barely any housework and this is the same when he has his 14 days off. I am beginning to feel like I’m drowning with the responsibilities and mental load.
Am I being unreasonable, expecting him to help with jobs around the house when he has almost the full 14 days off to himself? (These days are child free too.)
TIA and sorry again for the rambling post.

I can understand him not being much help when he's on night shifts. Although he should be able to be a part of the family during that time. But when he's off he should be doing more to help you.
Have you talked to him about this? Sounds like a heart to heart is much needed.

It's absolute madness that he wouldn't do any housework or childcare when he's on his days off. Do you work? Even if you don't he should still be contributing on his days off as when he has his days on you're working home/with the kids while he's at work.

I find the word help so loaded. He is not helping you - he is being asked to participate in the running of what is also HIS home. He is helping himself and all the family.

Help implies that it is all your job and he is being kind giving you a hand.

I find that attitude entirely sickening.

It's not help, it's parenting his own children.

I have tried to talk to him about this, time and time again. Unfortunately it seems to change for a short period of time but then quickly reverts back to ‘the norm’.
Yes I work part time but I am currently off for the summer which is probably why it feels more difficult (work weirdly feels like a break!) to manage housework, making sure the children are not too loud if we’re at home and he’s in bed, as well as doing something to entertain DC everyday. I wouldn’t mind so much if we returned home and he wasn’t just sat on the sofa but I’m finding it really difficult to be understanding. He will sometimes do the school pick up/drop off on his own but DC still go to school with grandparents then to their houses when he is off. The other days we end up going together to take them.
Yes night shifts are hard (I’ve done them myself) but surely if you’re getting 8 hours sleep in 24 hours then you don’t get excused from doing anything else?
You’re right @Mischance but I often do feel as though it’s my responsibility. His upbringing doesn’t really help as it seems a lot of the time MIL ran around after them all whilst FIL sat watching sports. I feel like I’m banging my head against a brick wall every time the conversation comes round.

I think he needs to change to a day shift.

You can't carry on like this - it is like you are a single parent. That is not right!