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Have you ever been hurt that much you

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Timelessclassic414 · 14/08/2024 18:40

No longer cry because just when you think nothing else can happen it does and you don't even surprised anymore.

Realised a few months back that my ex was not to be trusted In any shape or form. Women. Money drugs you name it and it was happening in our relationship. I probably know about 10% of the truth. The speed I've been noticing thing after thing lately. S month ago I was done. Left him. Felt better. 2 days ago he got In touch as he's lost his key and the flat door shut on him so rather than let him sleep rough I allowed him to stay. He managed to get in the next day. H3s now had his bank accounts closed. He's under the mental health team and I know he's declining so I went down to show him how to contact uc about his bank. I popped to his toilet and my razors and comb was sitting on the shelf where it has for over a year. I could see aload of dark hair wrapped around my razor which was so odd. I picked of approx 6 long black strands of hair. I saw 2 more on the comb. I'm a red head but more of an aurburn dark red. My hair strands tend to have a copper glow. So I took the chunk of hair and he flicked half of it on the floor and held up one strand getting mad and saying let's see who this random hair belongs to. I was fuming and said it's not just one hair it's several black hairs. He told me I'm wrong and he has no idea who's it is. I left and he said he could not cope no more. He keeps saying about suicide.

But how does several hairs get in his bathroom like that!! I'm so angry but not sad. Can't believe I fell for it again.

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MooseAndSquirrelLoveFlannel · 14/08/2024 19:08

He's your ex, why do you care if female hair was there?

Greytulips · 14/08/2024 19:11

Why are you wasting your time energy money mental capacity on this man?

Why does it matter if he’s shagged someone else?

You are no longer responsible for his happiness.

ComtesseDeSpair · 14/08/2024 19:18

Did you let him stay with you and go to his house to help with things because you’re hoping he’ll ask to reconcile? There’s no justification to be angry or upset at who he might be seeing otherwise, you’re not together, you can both have sex with other people now. You need to move on. If he’s receiving support from his mental health team then they will be able to help him apply for benefits or signpost to organisations who can. It doesn’t appear that you share children or a joint home or finances: just block his number and consider it over for good.

Tangelablue · 14/08/2024 19:18

You're not together anymore, you need to distance yourself from him.
The hair is likely from another woman.

Kerkyra2024 · 15/08/2024 10:03

As you are no longer together it's nothing to do with you if he's sleeping with other women. Especially as you state you left him however many months ago.

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