WAS FEELING POSATIVE - ITS GONE- ALL GONE !!!!!!

[debbie102]

Well
yesterday i was feeling more posative about the situation, i had a meeting with womens aid and the council and all my hopes lay in there hands.
today i feel like ive been kicked in the stomach had a phone call from womens aid, asking the age of my kids , they are to old for them to help me. they could helpme and the baby but not them.
there policy is no males over 14 years of age.

in short in a mentally absusive relationship, suffered for years i have one son who has an ocd and another on the verge of a nervous breakdown and a baby.

everything in in his name he has the upperhand and he knows it.
he is brainwashing my middle son against my eldest son and to see them fight is unbearable.

he did leave for a while cause he said he couldnt cope - suddenly he has found the strength to come back and start all over again. persecuting me .

i have cried myself to sleep every night for weeks except last night after this making the call to these people in desperation, thought i was on the right path for a way out.

i have health issues and am due to start radiation tomorrow 3 times a week for how long im unsure, and could really have done without this today.

why is it when i just pick myself up of the floor someone just gives me another kick in the face and puts me down there again.

i was gonna change my name to post this but thats a joke isnt it my whole life is falling apart i dont suppose a name change will make any difference.

where do i go from here.............

been council. just thought idlet you know even though id be accepted on homeless list still a 9mth waiting list.
thanks

Hi! Have you tried the charity Shelter? They will help you to get housed sooner. Domestic Violence is a reason for priority housing.

I hope you are ok? thanks for letting us know how you got on. I have been thinking of you. I hope you are managing to stay strong x

im trying. have my weak points but doing my best thanks for thinking about me. shelter tried them carnt do anything with oys over age 14 and no way am i leaving them.
gonna focus on getting a private house, got to do something while i wait - i have been told today that id be entitld to h/benefit of 127.00 per week so only problem would be months rent in advance and bond money.
il do my best
thanks for caring, of to hospital again in a min xx

Our local council have a thing called the bond bank where people without funds for a bond can borrow the money. I think you just pay it back when you leave the house and the bond is returned.

I hope all goes well at the hospital. Keep in touch won't you? xx

thankyou il look into that one.
i will let you know thanks so much for your time advice and caring nice to know i do have some people around me
thanks xx

You are welcome xx

Hi

Just an update on me myself and i.

ive recently moved house into what i think is a fabulous three bed house with gardens for my children,i moved with nothing, except what people were kind enough to pass onto me and what little i could afford to buy. im so much more relaxed and feel so much more at eas witheverything, i have my days were i cry all day but this is to be exoected im sure, but the main thing is ive done it and im so proud of myself for getting mykids away from the situation they were in.

Although things are still relativly new and imlearning to cope withcdifferent situations im loving the freedom and the independance ive gained. my kids are healthy and happy.

this is was a real struggle for me but ive done it and id like to thanks all of you who have supported me and been there for me with care, love advice.

so a great big thankyou to you all.

treatment starts again tomorrow sodont knowwhen il get a chance to post on here again so doing this now while its in my mind.

and oh yeh..... i have started divorce proceedings to , how brave am i.

thanks again
debbie

I did not see your thread first time around, but 3x cheers, and WELL DONE YOU!!!

And Good Luck!

many congratulations on your new life and wishing your whole family success.

I hope you realise how amazing you are and how lucky your DC's are to have you for a mum. Have a fabulous Xmas.

Well done to you for getting out of the situation.

I hope your treatment goes well.

Your children must be so much happier.

thankyou agin for the kind words, it helps so much even though i dont know some of you to think that you all support me in what ive done, i know its gonna be so so so hard this christmas, first one on my own for twenty years,well me and the kids, despite the baddness over the years christmas i always tried to make special . put a face on iyswim. dredding this year tbh ,older ones understand monies issues but baby dosnt, all i can do is my best and try my hardest to make it a special one for them. ive never been alone like i said for twenty years, and it scares me . but ive done the major thing now leaving, im sure il cope.
thanks again .

Well done and good luck for the future. I'm sure you will have a wonderful Christmas and very special.

I have only just seen this thread and I am so happy for you and DCs. You have a home and you are all safe, that counts for so much.

I do hope your treatment goes well and if you get the chance to post and let us know how you are, please do so.

Congratulations Debbie! Didn't see your first thread, but you've been so strong despite all your other problems. You should be very proud of yourself. Hope the treatment goes well.

I didn't see this thread at the beginning, but so pleased you found a way out, and things are looking up for you.

thanks all, il let you all know i carnt believe how lucky i am