Friend is leaving

[natel]

2 of my colleagues in my team leave this week. It is sad as they are nice people but they said the manager was a micromanager and others in another team who love the drama have been reporting them to him to get them out.

I will be really sad when one of them goes as he was so supportive to me as I have an ongoing battle with work overload which is finally being resolved. He would help with my work too. I just don’t want to cry when I say goodbye. It felt like for the first time the rest of the team were really nice people and now the dynamic will be changing. The manager has not even bothered to get temps in and they leave in a few days so we have to struggle on.

This keeps happening at work you start to get on well with people then they leave when they realise how toxic it is. I know colleagues are not friends but it feels like a loss.

Well, why don’t you leave, if you’re experiencing the same conditions that made them leave?

Thanks for your reply. I need to as it is affecting my mental health and when they have gone I won’t have their support and will miss their presence.

For what it's worth it's not a hard and fast rule that you can't make friends at work, it's just a preference that some people have. I can understand the feeling of loss when a good person isn't going to be around anymore.

Just going by your posts you do sound quite down and like your workplace is taking a massive toll on you. I agree that in the long term you need to look for other jobs as well as trying to remember that work is just one part of your life. Even if work is only bearable there is the potential for joy elsewhere.

That sounds like a good resolution. But also, presumably you’ll stay in touch with this person and see them still, away from the workplace, if you’ve become friends? I have some very good friends from former jobs.