Hi all,
I am a mum of 1 (8mo) and have been with my partner almost 8 years.
I was wondering if anyone had been through the same difficulties. I am currently finding myself wanting to move completely different areas, no where nearby to where we are now for a complete new start and change of life.
Me and my partner have always lived around the same area, which is run down, no opportunities and a dying town. It is also high in crime and I would not feel safe letting my child play out. The schools around here are also rubbish.
Recently I've found myself itching to move away, even contemplating other countries. I feel when you become a parent it completely changes your perspective on things. I don't want my daughter growing up here where I did. The town has gotten much worse, last month there were 2 driveby shootings at 2 different houses within the same week. Completely unrelated and only a 5 minute drive. The list goes on really.
My partner would happily live here forever which I believe is due to family. Since having our little one his family have been very unsupportive and haven't even bothered with us much at all which is why I feel more compelled to leave.
I only have a small family. It's always just been me and my mum which also makes me feel an enormous amount of guilt if we were to leave. My mum can be co dependent and I have voiced my reasons to her... she responded "well as long as I'm not isolated". In all honesty my mum has held me back most my life, I didn't move away to university, I haven't travelled. All due to my mum being on her own. I'd hate my daughter to miss out in the same way.
I think about moving away every single day. I can't stand it round here. I work in education too so now personally that the schools aren't great.
Has anyone been in the same situation? I know I'll look back in years to come and regret staying here...