Happy Monday mumsnetters. Will try to keep brief.
Very recent relationship breakdown, work with ex, she ended the relationship in a hurtful way. I am also female for context of this post.
Post break up she has attempted to sweep under the rug and push a friendship. I am hurt and for obvious reasons, unable to do that. As no contact not possible, I am not engaging in any communication except (of course) remaining polite and professional, necessary conversation only for work purposes/brief small talk in work situations.
Behaviour is now escalating to confronting me/guilt tripping me for not being my usual self. There have also been attempts at provoking jealousy in me using someone they had history with. I haven’t reacted to these attempts.
Work wise I do not have any intention to leave my role at company at this stage, nor is a transfer a realistic option. It is tough as you can imagine and I am doing my best to push on.
Do I ultimately confront this behaviour and set my boundaries? Or do I keep my mouth shut, and keep on ignoring it (which seems to be what is leading to this behaviour - wanting a reaction of sorts). I don’t really understand the behaviour if I’m honest and really did not see it coming. I find it attention seeking.
Generally, I tend to push down urges to confront in these situations, and prefer to just keep pushing forward, thinking that if someone is prepared to behave so poorly what is the point of explaining why their behaviour is poor and hurtful.
But I’m wondering if I need to stick up for myself?