Is my husband hiding a device

[Icyotter]

Hi,

This is my first post as I don't have anyone I am comfortable sharing with.
I will try to keep it short!

After a year of feeling something isn't right , a few days ago I went through husbands tablet.....he isn't secretive with his phone, leaves it around the house and we both know each other's passwords. He's signed into all his social media accounts etc.

I looked into his emails and found notifications from Instagram saying a new device has signed into your account.
It said it was linux, chrome.

He's always said he doesn't have insta and he doesn't have the app downloaded in his phone etc.

The notifications were spread out over the course of last 8 months. Sometimes once a month ,other times several times, different times a day, mostly in the afternoon. The last time was couple of weeks ago at 1am. Location was from the city we live in.

The username is a fake name. Not one he's uses on other social media.

If its just intsa hes hiding thats weird. But my concern is that hes got a hidden device somewhere that is using linux which i never would have suspected.

He wfh, and I don't think it would be from his work laptop as he uses windows?

I've had a look around the house but I can't find anything.

For context, I'm suspicious because we have basically not had much intimacy in the past 5 years , started when I got pregnant.
Looking back, he never had much of a drive but now it seems there was always an excuse.
I have raised the issue several times and he makes an effort for a week or so then it's back to normal. He sleeps in the other room as my youngest wakes sometimes and tbh he seems happy in there.
He insists everything is fine and that when the 2 kids are older things will be better.
I don't think it's an affair as he doesn't go out much.

If there are multiple sign-ons it doesn't sound like a device. It could a virtual machine, or some sort of sandboxed system (like the anonymous mode in browsers). Would an app that creates a layer of safety in his existing hardware do that

I definitely agree it's suspicious, unless one of his projects involves instagram.

I have multiple emails a day in my inbox to say a new device has logged into my google account. It's because I'm using Mumsnet in an incognito window in my browser, so have to log in every time I use it.

The frequency of the emails suggest that he's doing that, rather than a separate device. The fact that it's Linux rather than Windows could be due to using a VPN or similar. I've got one set up and it will tell my I'm logging in from all kinds of weird and wonderful places, maybe it randomises device information as well.

Ah ok thank you that sounds more plausible than having an entirely new device.

I don't know much about linux, so when I googled it sounded like it's new device.

Im certain it wont be for work as he's not in the creative secror at all. And logging in at 1am the last time ....

Still something he's trying to hide then, I don't want to brush this under the carpet as a few months ago I had a genuine conversation with him where I asked him to let me know if there's anything he's hiding, whatever it is, I said if he was lying it would be worse.

I get these emails when I sign into Instagram on a chrome browser on my laptop, after I've cleared the browsing history. Never when I use an app.

OK. It's just that he says he doesn't have insta.
And also if he wanted to view content on insta he would normally just get the app and make an account. (That's what he's done with twitter and tiktok, he doesn't actively post but just views content).
So he's probably looking at something he wants to keep hidden

Have you tried searching for the username you saw on instgram?

Yes I did, 0 following, 0 followers ,0 posts. Isn't private.