Abusive ex on tinder. Not paying for his child driving round in my car

[Damselindistres]

So... my lovely ex, father of our 6 month old son is back on tinder in under a week after trashing my car, in front of the kids and isn't paying a penny towards our son.

Stupidly he has the house contract in my name and he isn't paying bills. I told the companies that I had moved out but he has the contract and so he says he will run me up a sh** load of debt (charming). So this is stopping me going via CSA. He really doesn't give one little tiny shit that he isn't seeing his son. My son is the most amazing loving well behaved little boy!! It angers me that he treats him this way!!! What to do guys, please? Thanks xx

Is the tenancy in your name? Or what other bills are in your name?

Well none now because I told him all o had moved out. But he can say well no she was here not paying - which is not true

Get ahead at his own game.

i presume you now live elsewhere with a new tennancy or with family?

ensure your name is on new bills and issue each utility/landlord with your new details to prove you aren’t there and are officially registered (with the council on voting/council tax/Universal credit) elsewhere as proof you weren’t living there. You say you have formally written but I would do so again with irrefutable evidence dated from when you left so that all debt is his.

contacts women’s aid for support. (and I hope you reported him to the police about the car, especially as if he did it in front of the children) this evidenced will be noted if he’s ever wants to see his son. Be glad he doesn’t!

I love this!!
What great ideas thank you so much. You have given me a lot of good advice here which I didn't think of. However I did not contact the police as to be honest I fear what he will do if I did.

Hopefully he is not on your son's birth certificate?
Are your older children ok? They must have been terrified.

They're ok. I protected them and sort of hid as much as I could. I did advise him he will never get near my son - meaning at the moment I will leave things because he hasn't tried to make contact to see my son however if he does I will likely be reporting his behaviour because I just cannot even deal with his behaviour around my son.

If you are not tied to living near him I would move and not leave him a forwarding address!

If he is on the birth cert then he will have parental responsibility and could take you to court for access. Hopefully he isn't though.