This situation has already been resolved, it wasn't a big deal overall. I'm just looking for some input on whether I'm being hypersensitive, perhaps triggered by being in a previously abusive relationship.
Anyway, my boyfriend was going to walk to a little store that's literally 100 yards from our home. He invited me to go with him and I said I wanted to go, but needed a minute to get ready. We live in the Caribbean and I wanted to put trousers on so I wouldn't get any bug bites. I also wanted to put on a bra as I don't like going out of the house without one, I feel embarrassed without one. (I don't care if others wear them, only me.)
So I'm gathering my clothes and he's following me with a stream of commentary on how unnecessary it is to be putting on anything more than shoes. He's not saying anything mean, just saying it's such a short distance, and nobody cares, stuff like that. After about two minutes of him carrying on like this, I turned to him and said, "if you don't feel like waiting for me, you don't have to." This response hurt his feelings and he started getting defensive, saying, "I was just giving you a hard time, I don't really care, you can put your stuff on." And then he said he didn't want to go to the store anymore, and went and laid down.
As the situation was happening, it felt to me like he just wanted me to hurry up, so he was passive-aggressively trying to make me skip these things that he views as unnecessary. But I don't know. If I hadn't said anything, he would have waited as I got ready, but the commentary would have continued the entire time. I know it wasn't necessary for me to respond.
I just want input as to whether I'm being hypersensitive or what.
And a few minutes later he came out and apologized and said he wasn't trying to be mean to me and he would wait patiently however long I needed to get ready.