Would you care if...

[TyrannasaurusJex]

....your spouse/partner looked through everything in your phone? I don't mean in a sneaky way, I just mean if it was some sort of social experiment where you were suddenly made to sit down and swap phones - is there anything in there that you wouldn't want them to see?

There's nothing suspicious in my phone.

However, my husband wouldn't ask or make me sit to attention like a naughty schoolgirl under the guise of some nonsense 'social experiment'. He's not an asshole.

No nothing, might be some things he would be curious about but nothing embarrassing

Yes, the messages my friends have sent me about their lives, assuming they were talking only to me and it would be kept private.

He can look at anything he wants. I send about three texts a week and occasionally take a photo of the dog. The texts are mostly to DS and say, 'What time will you be home?' Or 'Do you want tea tonight?'.

I'm v boring. Also, I don't think DH knows how to text or read a phone. We're quite old.

No, he can have a nosy! I'm a rather private person and should hate the idea of this but I wouldn't actually care, thinking of it. Nothing to hide.

It's basically asking to look inside your brain. No thanks.

I have nothing to hide but I have conversations with friends about their lives which they expect (and are) completely private. So I would refuse . My partner would not ask to look.

This wouldn't bother me at all. There's nothing on there, or on any other device I have, that he can't see.

I mean he can look at anything apart from my Amazon history 😂 texts, photos, socials - whatever! Just not the Amazon 😂

I have nothing to hide but I would absolutely hate this. DH doesn't know the passcode to my phone and I wouldn't ever give it to him. Like I said, nothing to hide but sometimes I search for things I wouldn't want him seeing, like an embarrassing symptom or something. I wouldn't want him reading conversations with friends either. It would just feel intrusive.

I would be happy for anyone to see my phone and messages. I could probably market them for insomnia.

No, I tell him pretty much everything anyway. I can’t imagine he would want to though. He has dyslexia and he’s already heard enough of me prattling on about Donna’s hemorrhoids and the price of blueberries in Lidl.

I can categorically say this scenario could never arise. The last time I had a partner mobile phones hadn’t been invented . And that’s the truth 😆

We wouldn't do this to each other.

I would be incandescent with rage if he asked, though. Nothing to hide, but I do think it's a gross trespass. It would that he felt ge couldn't trust me, there would be no other reason to have free access to my phone. Saying that we both know the others passcodes, and will occasionally use whatever phone is to hand to make quick call, take a pic but never go into the others msgs unless directed where to look for something.

If I can't trust him with what he does on his devices, I shouldn't trust him at all is my view. And, I do trust him, and he trusts me.

I have nothing to hide but no absolutely I would not let him look through my phone.

oh of course, that would be mental, it's a purely hypothetical situation!

yeah so conversations with my friends about their private lives is the only thing that would bother me. Was just having a chat with some friends about it and there was an interesting division of opinions, much like on this thread!

In a purely hypothetical situation where for some reason he had to go through my phone, no I don't think there's anything I'd be bothered about him seeing.

For me it's the principle. I'm entitled to privacy.

I wouldn’t mind - we have the same passcode.

No that would be fine, slightly boring for them maybe