This may be a bit long

[Louiseww]

I only signed up today as I needed some advice,I have no family I could really talk to and no friends,here goes well as if yesterday my partner and I broke up as I play gta online a lot and met a few friends some are guys and some are girls ,they are all friendly and we just protect each other wen we are in a lobby,wel my partner kicks off all the time im only talking to all these men online which I dnt ,,well wen we argue he always says im perfect and i do nothing wrong ,but i know we are bad as each other but he won’t see anything like that and says i have to change ,,I let him have friends even tho he dnt talk to many of his friends now,now we are arguing as we need to sort this out ,do i move does he move ,i really dnt know where i ho from here,will the council help me,I’m really stuck and wondering if anyone knows wat I should do,I have 4 kids ,2 adults one and younger ones ,sorry if it’s long

Are any of the kids also his? Is the house rented or owned? In both your names or just one? Do either or both of you work? It will be hard for anyone to advise without this info. I don’t know how you can possibly expect anyone to know if the council will help without knowing any details of your situation whatsoever.

It doesn’t sound like a healthy relationship, and it’s not good for someone to ‘kick off’ or to talk about ‘letting’ your partner have friends.

Sorry I didn’t include all this but yes the kids are all his .one is 27 ,one is 32 a 7 yr and a 14 yr old,it is rented from the council ,the kids are all living at home,,I have health issues ,,I can’t have much as I can’t go out a lot as I get very ill if I’m alone so I enjoy going on gta and parties with a few pls ,which there are usually about 5 of us but he always has a go at me and at this moment we are in 2 different rooms and he has messaged me and if I dnt reply he says so u can’t reply to me now ,

You’ve been together for over 30 years??

Do you actually want to separate? If not have some marriage guidance counselling, this feels like something that can be sorted out.

You aren’t kids, there will be a huge impact on your housing and younger kids.

They are his, or they are both of yours?

Your situation is not healthy at all. Have you had therapy, or getting support for your health?

yes we been together a very long time,it’s just been getting worse lately,he talks to me wen he feels like it ,he never really laughs anymore,always think I’m up to something,I get a message and straight away says whose messaging u,tbh I dnt know wat I want anymore,I see ppl having fun and im just stuck in this situation,he dnt trust me,last year he nearly died and I was there every step of the way with him which I always looked after him but now it’s just so different,he told me to take his name off of the holiday booking,I dnt even know wat he wants he just keeps telling me I need to change

Yes they are both ours kids ,,I’ve learnt to live with my health and he would never want therapy

It sounds like things are going awry on more ways than one.
If you want to split up, can you afford to move? Or can he leave the house?
If the issue is simply he doesn't like you talking to your gaming friends, could you come to a compromise? You've every right to have online friends. As does he.
But obviously you shouldn't be spending more time on them than people in real life.
Are there reasons why you'd want to try and stay together?