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Friendship issues

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Randomred123 · 11/08/2024 12:50

Hi everyone, wanted your opinion on a friendship..
So my friend and I arranged to do an activity for the day finishing with dinner. I hadn't heard anything from my friend so I text the night before to ask if we were still meeting and she said she has to cancel as she totally forgot and had made plans with her mum and sister so couldn't come! I told her I was upset and couldn't reschedule activity as tickets bought and paid for non refundable she told me she would pay me back and make it up to me. One week later have heard nothing from her not a single text
I'm feeling a bit annoyed, upset to be honest. Been friends for only 2 years for context
What would you do next? Interested in your opinions x

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SamW98 · 11/08/2024 12:55

I’d message her and ask if she remembered to transfer the money but possibly accept that she’s not the friend you thought she was.

Fiery30 · 11/08/2024 13:02

Yes, I would be angry at their careless attitude. Did you confirm and send her a copy of the tickets when you bought it? Seems odd that she forgot a plan that would almost take the whole day. Were you guys texting during the week about meeting time, dinner plans?
In any case, I would message and remind her to send the money asap. There is no shame in asking what you are due. In fact, a good friend would send it without even asking and be apologetic. Her behaviour is indicative of how much value she has for your friendship and you.

Greytulips · 11/08/2024 13:03

How much were the tickets and did you end up going?

Did you lose the cost of both?

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Randomred123 · 11/08/2024 13:06

Hi, I didn't go as It was a 2 hour drive away and didn't want to on my own. Tickets were a out £50 so not the biggest loss, the money isn't the thing that bothers me as much it's the lack of respect x

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Original poster
Randomred123 · 11/08/2024 13:08

Fiery30 · 11/08/2024 13:02

Yes, I would be angry at their careless attitude. Did you confirm and send her a copy of the tickets when you bought it? Seems odd that she forgot a plan that would almost take the whole day. Were you guys texting during the week about meeting time, dinner plans?
In any case, I would message and remind her to send the money asap. There is no shame in asking what you are due. In fact, a good friend would send it without even asking and be apologetic. Her behaviour is indicative of how much value she has for your friendship and you.

Well that's the thing, we spoke about it 2 weeks before and then I never heard anything from her but I neither text her either so I thought something was off and when it got to the night before I thought something seems off and turns out I was right! X

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Mary46 · 11/08/2024 13:15

Hi op I wouldnt plan with her again. I found this flaky behaviour from people so I dont bother now and they cancel last minute.

ManhattanPopcorn · 28/09/2024 11:10

You're not really friends. Maybe you once were but you didn't particularly like each other now. Just accept that and move on.

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