Finally I'm free but feel scared

[collann]

So after 5 years of what I now know as narcissistic behaviour I have finally left my fiancé.
I feel stronger this time (we've had many breaks over the relationship)
And everything that he done to me and my daughter has finally sunk in.
How was I blind for so long.
I'm not scared of doing it alone my daughter is not his and I've been a single parent before I am however scared of dating when the time comes obviously
But right now it's me & my girl
Through all the bravado though will I be ok??

Don't even think about dating, put time into yourself and your daughter. I've been divorced for 8 years nearly, dipped in and out of online dating but to be quite honest, I can't be bothered. I've become the best version of me I've ever been and someone would have to be pretty amazing to break through all my boundaries 😂

I love my life, it was hard in the early days but I genuinely never feel like I'm missing out on anything and love doing exactly as I please. I can't imagine living with a man again! You'll be fine, more than fine in fact

Yes you will be fine.

It will be strange and drafts and tough at times, but take one day at a time and life will settle down fast enough.,

Be very kind and compassionate to yourself through the adjustment period - life changes need patience.

Life will get much better soon.

Congratulations on making such a great decision.

You know, you don't have to date again if you don't want. It's not a requirement.

But if and when you do, hopefully you'll have your eyes wide open for signs of abuse. I suggest taking at least 18 months fully single, reading up on how to spot narcissists and other red flags before dating. Because they won't all present like your ex.

The fear is much less when you know you can trust yourself to have your own back. And 75% of that is knowing how to spot these assholes asap. The rest is listening to your gut and leaving as soon as there are red flags.

Knowledge is power. But you also have to ve happy in yourself and know you have your own back.

Sounds like you are taking steps towards this now as you've finally ditched this asshole! 👏 🥳