How to comeback from "Flatmate' status

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Long time married. Many ups and downs. He was an alcoholic, now sober almost two years. At one point we were splitting up, I had taken advice from a solicitor. Two ish years ago there was police involved. Lots of resentment on both sides probably at one stage.
Fast forward to now, we are still together but it feels like flatmates. There's no deep talking, no affection, no time spent just us. We haven't been intimate in over 5 years.
I want to give it a go, otherwise I wouldn't be here. I gave one of those books where you scratch of surprise dates to try and get some time alone together, do something to rebuild connection back on Valentine's day. It hasn't even been touched.
I brought it up and it's because we have money issues. Fair enough but alternatives haven't been discussed, it was the spirit of the gift that mattered- to spend time together.
We are skint, massively so, but others in our position are still connected to each other so I can't see why we can't get through this.
Is there any way we can turn this around? Get back to being a happy normal connection? Any tips?

Police?

Domestic abuse?

This relationship is dead.

Move in.

Does he have liver damage from his drinking if so that could be the reason for lack of intimacy?

You're the only one trying. He isn't. It takes two to make a relationship.

You care, he doesn't. End it and move on.

This relationship should have ended years ago; what with domestic violence, police involvement, no intimacy and alcoholism to boot. Why has this relationship actually continued; what are you getting out of this still that for you is somehow worth it?. Do you feel responsible for him?.

Is it because you are codependent in relationships?. Are there children involved?.

Police were called as eldest and dh were rowing and fronting up to each other, thought it was going to get physical. There was also rumors from dd, later denied by DD, that dh had pulled dd hair. He was arrested. Bailed and lived in a hotel for a week or two. But then came back. But she is a total daddy girl now. He promised her the world and had I left I would have lost her too.
No idea re liver damage. It isn't discussed.
It's like the older two and me vs DD and dh. In terms of doing things together. I try to pull it all together and like today it can be me, dh and dd. But oldest, who I am closest to, I about to move out and I feel adrift.
Plus I cannot afford to move out.

Whatever the opinions, and I DO recognize they may be valid, I do feel like I need to give it one more shot, so.