Would this get you down

[6potatoes]

If your parter called you lazy all the time.
If you do a lot, and people say you must be tired but your partner says your not tired your unfit.
If you say you didn't have time to do something and they say you need to make time.
If you constantly go out without make up and with wet hair because u don't get chance and they say u need to be faster but they don't help.

He does not like you. Get rid of him.

Well yes, obviously. Tell him to fuck right off and suggest he get a servant and not a partner as clearly that is what he wants.

Yes that would get me down to be low level bullied. Not much of a partner I’m sorry to say. What do they do that makes you happy?

Why would you accept this ?

He sounds like a bully, sorry

You can just bin him, you know. It’s easy. ‘This relationship isn’t working for me anymore and it’s time to end it’. That’s literally all you need to say.

Instead of getting down, get him out. problem solved.

Sounds like bullying

My ex h would often tell me I’m lazy ( I worked a 50 hr week. He didn’t work at all !)
One of the many reasons he’s EX

He won't change, OP !
I’d get rid.

You’re not lazy, you’re with a horrible man in a very bad relationship. What do you need to do so you can leave him?

Why do you have him in your life? What does he add to your happiness?

Any positives to this person???? Don't put yourself through living like that.

@BananaLambo and other, thank you replying
Can't just bin him as we have children

All the more reason to bin him.
Your children will be picking up on and learning from his toxic behaviour.
Eventually, they will tell you you’re lazy and things you do won’t be good enough.

They will suffer from anxiety and end up with partners like their dad. Or they will mirror his behaviour and be abusive themselves.

The days of staying for the children are long gone. It just damages them.

It’s tough making the decision to leave but you owe it to yourself and your children.

He's a twat that doesn't respect you. How much does he do?

It wouldn't get me down no, it'd get me out the door quicker than a whippet with a bum full of dynamite because absolutely no way would I be in a relationship with someone so nasty who doesn't even like me.

My honest opinion is it'd be a bit unusual if it didn't get you down. Who thrives under constant criticism?

I was told I was messy, slobby, didn’t appreciate how much he did around the house. Couldn’t understand why I was so tired all the time. We split for various reasons and it’s amazing how much tidier the house is, how much more energy I have no he’s not around!
It might not be simple to LTB but the realty is is this man won’t change. He doesn’t respect you. He will keep grinding you down until you don’t recognise yourself. Bear in mind this will impact on your kids too. Honestly, confide in someone close in real life and start imaging a future without him.

This 👆

It is precisely because you have children that this relationship should end. What do you want to teach them about relationships and what are they learning here?.
Staying for their sake; well you're staying for yours really because its somehow "easier" for you to do so.

Not infrequently, people are simply afraid to move on with their lives and take their own responsibility for happiness. Financial concerns or the fear of being alone often motivate such paralysis, hidden beneath the mask of staying together for the children. Do not ever be afraid to move on with your own life.

From what you have said he sounds pretty horrible.

Other than having children, are there any other good points about him? Do you still love him and want to be with him, if he could stop talking so negatively about you?

Obviously I don't know him, and he may be a nasty abusive bastard - he sounds like one to be honest.

I suppose it is just possible that he doesn't realise how hurtful he is being, and he thinks he is giving you some sort of "constructive criticism"?

If so, it is important that you try to make him understand that impact he is having on you - that you need him to be positive, and show how he values you, rather than putting you down all the time.

If he has any love and respect for you, then once he understands how he is making you feel he will make an effort to change.

If he doesn't care, or not enough to change how he speaks, then unfortunately there is no way to turn this around.

I am sorry. It sounds depressing and awful. Please look after yourself. You don't sound lazy at all - you sounds extremely busy and very tired!

I'd take him at his word and do absolutely nothing and become that lazy person he accuses you of being. Washing not done - yeah it's me being lazy. Shopping not done - yeah it's me being lazy. Cooking not done - yeah it's me being lazy.

Then it’s even more important that you bin him. You are modelling a poor relationship where you are systematically bullied and treated badly. Your children will think that’s normal and start treating you like that. They will grow up in a home with an unhappy and defeated mother. Is that what you want their future relationships to look like?

He sounds really horrible. I would not tolerate this. Don’t you deserve more?

Thanks all,
Yes oldest dc has begun saying similar to me,
Oh says I'm being sensitive