how did i end up

[humble12]

how did i end up married to an emotionally abusive nasty man?
just how
how did i not see the signs
how did i get so blind sided
he swears me, is nasty to me, points at me shouts at me and stares at me with eyes of a psychopath
why and how

No. And moving away from your friends and family is a common tactic abusers use to make you feel more trapped and like there is no way out.

Firstly, you need to tell your family what's happening. At the very least it takes away the threat of him saying he will talk to your family. Not that I believe he has any intention to, butnhik threatening to has obviously been effective at 'keeping you in line" in the past.

This horrible behaviour thrives in secrecy. You have nothing to be ashamed of. Speak to your family. I know it's hard. It won't get easier with waiting, only harder. Please try and muster the strength.

@humble12 what is kicking off the arguments OP? Dont you think your family will support you better when they know there is massive problem in the relationship? you and your child are not in a safe place at the moment. whatever hold he has over you, whatever he is threatening to tell your family, is inconsequential. you need to get your things together and, with your child, catch the bus or train back home to safety. dont bother about him because he is not going to change from the bully he is to a respectful kind partner you want him to be. I would rather spend a lifetime be skint and safe that a year with an asshole like he sounds!