Stay or go?

[anonamum123]

Considering separation after finding out about my husband’s emotional affair with a girl half his age. He did have a physical affair before we had kids - 12 years ago. The EA didn’t last long, but he lied a lot at the time, had contact after I found out and didn’t admit it until I had proof.

Life as a single parent - Did you feel guilty separating the family? Even if you’re not to blame. How do you leave someone you love and when do you know for sure it’s the right thing to do? Does it get easier, and is there a chance to meet someone who won’t cheat?

Or can he change and we move past this in hope it won’t happen again?

I mean he’s had a physical affair in the past, been forgiven, and now he’s had an emotional affair. If you forgive him again all you’re saying is “I’ll stay no matter what, so do whatever you like”.

I've looked at your other threads OP.
He won't change.
Surely you would be better off as a single parent?

And these are the affairs you find out about. Who knows what others have occurred?

Sorry OP but I agree with PP - if you forgive again you’re setting a precedent telling him he can get away with repeated infidelity.

Edited as just seen your other threads - you met him when you were still a teenager and he’s a decade older. And his indiscretions are with women half his age.

Sorry but he’s a sleazy creep and you are still so young. Don’t waste the rest of your life on this man.

I don’t think people change.
I have hope that not all men cheat but don’t know that to be the case.
Sometimes having separated parents is better for the child than parents together. Even if you make the decision you shouldn’t feel guilty if this was caused by the other persons actions.