Bi partner? FabGuys.com

[LisaH09]

Hi,
I am reaching out for help.
My partner of 24 years recently told me that he did not think he loved me any more.

After weeks of turmoil, love, hate, reconciliation, we agreed to stay together and work on our relationship. Even had a wonderful, much needed holiday together.
In all honesty, this year has been hell fo both of us, so I understood the strain.
However, the feeling that something wasn't quite right just wouldn't leave me.
Just found out he is a Premium Member on FabGuys.com.
Seen a post a while back on here, about this.
Please help, explain more, if you can.
He explicitly denied it at first. Then told me it is the first time he used it and then deleted the account.
I am not sure if there is any trust left in our relationship. I'm not sure if there is even a relationship left.
I am, however, a person that needs to understand, with facts and explanations.
Please, anyone willing to talk.
Love doesn't just disappear after 24 years. What has happened? Feel as though my whole life has been a lie x

What a rotten position to be in.

I agree love rarely disappears suddenly after so long but maybe he was trying to spare you the hurt of hearing he’s been loving you less and less over a long time.

When I hear of people telling their partner that they don’t love them anymore but then agree to give the relationship more time, I’m always a bit dubious. Not loving someone anymore is final, to me, and a cruel thing to say if you’re not completely sure. It’s very different to saying things are feeling a bit off and suggesting ways to improve the connection

If someone really no longer loves their partner it is kinder to end it than offer false hope when they are more than likely staying together for convenience until they have a new relationship, that they feel sure of, to go to.

All the denial and drip feeding about the dating site is similarly cruel and disrespectful. For me the lies would destroy any trust I had left.

I too prefer to have explanations to understand. I think we all do to some extent to be sure in our minds the decisions we make are based on facts and sound. When someone starts lying to you they are denying you that peace of mind (also cruel). How will you know if anything he says, any explanations, are true? I don’t think you can and if you stay with him you will be forever unsure of your relationship