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Wedding Doubts

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Anon12887 · 10/08/2024 09:00

Hi,

I'm due to get Married this November and every day I'm doubting my relationship and wedding.

Since we've been engaged we haven't really stopped arguing, my fiance doesn't want to break up and has told me it would need to come from me.

He had been a way for 2 weeks and I was hoping maybe the distance would help, but as soon as he came back he's been negative moaning about everything, even the nice little things I've done for him.

I feel trapped as I live in a military house with him and I work away from my family (5 hours away) and I've got nobody up here If i did leave him, and I love my job so much.

I'm hoping things will change but I feel like this everyday, maybe this is part of it?

Please help!

OP posts:
DontBiteTheCat · 10/08/2024 09:01

Please don’t marry him.

Mumdiva99 · 10/08/2024 09:03

Please don't marry him. Split and live your life with no arguing. Do you have kids together? Can you afford to live alone? Is your job transferable?

PurpleReindeer2 · 10/08/2024 09:03

Trust your gut. At least postpone the wedding. Cheaper to cancel than regret then divorce.

MonsteraMama · 10/08/2024 09:06

No, constant arguing is not "part of it". Marriage won't improve this situation, if anything it'll make it worse.

Don't marry him. No job is worth a lifetime of this.

PashaMinaMio · 10/08/2024 09:08

You are not happy in this situation so marrying is not going to change it.
Postpone the wedding. Start that process today. Make one phone call.

This might take the pressure off whilst you sort out the fundamentals of your arguing. Do not marry him (yet).

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