Before I go on, I need to say this as it might be cultural difference, I am Chinese, in the China culture is a very close-knit family (No, you don't just cut off a family member), and respect elders, not just your mom dad, grandparents, but also your aunts and uncles too as they are siblings of your parents.
The Chinese me I'm the type that like to maintenance peace, and you can call me doormat but I never dare cut out a family member, and I avoid confrontation.
Him, my husband (whom not Chinese), he has zero problem with cut off a family member, and he will start war if he has to, and he has zero problem with confrontation.
Together 14 years, married 12 years. Our child died of brain disease 5 years ago, my child died when he was 1.5 years old, brain disease run in my side of the family and I'm the baby's mother.
This is not on my husband, it on me. Even if we try for another child there always a 50/50 chance the next baby could inherit brain disease from me again.
Both me and my husband still grief our child's death.
My husband is fine with not having children as he said he married me because he loves me and wants to grow old together with me, not because he wants to carry on his genes or carry on the family name.
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So you see during holidays we have family get together with all his family members, his aunt (his paternal aunt), his aunt commented that use his income and his U.S. citizenship, he has a University Master degrees and income of 6-figures.
His aunts said use his money and U.S citizenship go to China, Vietnam, Philippines, Russia, etc.. to find a younger woman (beside be a better match for him than me) but also can give him children to carry on the family name, because he is the ONLY son.
He was mad, right there in front of the whole family get together dinner table,
yep. in front of his whole family sitting there.
He SLAM his FIST down the holiday family gettogether table and yelled "ENOUGH", and point to his aunt and address his aunt as "this woman", that do not ever call him for any family gettogether anymore if has "this woman" (his aunt) in it.
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Told his aunt to apologize to me his wife, and do not ever speak a word to me again, and do not come anywhere near me. Hold my hand, said to his mom he call her later, walk straight out and SLAM the door on his way out.
My jaw drop, I was speechless. ALL that just because his aunt on the holiday family gettogether table said the da-mn truth that he has other options out there, other options alot better than me, and another woman can give him healthy children without brain disease.
He told me he not want his aunt to instill things like this in my head, and he does not want her anywhere near me. He also does not want to have anything to do with is aunt or want to be around a woman like her.
And that it is his aunt, his family, let him deal with it "his" ways. And No, I do not have a choice but listen to him. And that I need to understand he protecting me here.
It been 5 years, he keep his words, he never went to any family gettogether that has his aunt in it. He completely cut her off, just over that.
And does not want me to talk to his aunt, reason is because he does not want her to instill bullock things like that in my head.
He still hold grudge against her 5 years later. I get it it his aunt, let him deal with his family. But was he overreacting with his aunt?