Someone who never takes accountability

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How do you deal with someone who NEVER takes accountability or apologise when they are clearly wrong? However, 9/10 puts the blame on you.

It's so exhausting!

Dump.

Withdraw completely from this person.

Get rid

I divorced them

Go NC - it won’t ever get better

Harsh but true. You can't help them/ change them/ train them. You will tie yourself in knots trying to make things ok, and you will lose your identity bit by bit. No easy way to say it, but if you can... walk away. And prepare to be strong while you watch them betray you in every way that matters to you after you've done it.

Stop wasting your energy. Dump the person and be happy.

It doesn’t get any better.

I left him. He made it difficult, took almost two years and I had to endure them accusing me of what he had done.

I will say I blew him out of the water with some of my correspondence, made them look a complete fool in front of the solicitors.

Textbook narcissist.

You can’t.

Long term marriage, with kids and currently pregnant. It really couldn't get any worse at times. I wish people could be up front when you first meet them and tell you by the way I am an absolute asshole and will make it difficult to be with me, and at least have given me the chance to look for someone who is not like that! I am pretty angry right now at him & everything he does!

I was married to one of these. Literally nothing he couldn't twist to make my fault. I ended up like a ghost.

You get one life. Don't spent it with this man child.

Same as @LadyTiredWinterBottom2.
It doesn't get any better.
I am a shell of myself after 27 years.

They never will take responsibility for anything. It's like they do not have a conscience. It won't change. You'll go mad.

For some people when there's a problem the first thing they do is look for someone to blame. It's a basic personality type (like 'placating', or 'authoritarian'.) There's nothing you can do to fix him or change the situation.

I’m married to one of these, I wish I’d got out years ago.

Get this person out of your life. People like this are a hazard to your mental well-being.

You don't, quite simply.

Divorce is how you deal with it. They will not change as they are incapable of taking responsibility for anything, especially their behaviour. Change would mean accepting they are wrong, which of course they never are. Unless you like martyrdom, your life will be better without them.

Watching this thread with interest as I'm married to someone who never apologises/is seemingly never in the wrong. Not sure what advice I can give other than not to apologise yourself or take responsibility for foul mood of a partner who's like that - it's taken me years to get to that point. It's important to have some boundaries in place around this type of behaviour - good luck.

I’m divorcing him. It was awful.