Recently I had a couple of dates with someone I liked a lot. Unfortunately he wasn’t into me so we left things, although kept in touch sporadically with banter and a bit of flirting on WhatsApp.
I realised it wasn’t good for me to keep in contact with him as I was secretly hoping for more. I was always the one to message first but he was usually chatty and responded quickly.
But I still had to face the fact that he wasn’t interested and it wasn’t good for me so about a week ago, I deleted his number.
A couple of days ago he messaged me out of the blue. He sent a photo of a beach he was on and was all chatty again. I responded politely but kept it very surface level and didn’t really get into conversation.
He volunteered that he was going to a different beach the next day, a long way from the ones he normally goes to where he lives.
It was like he was making a point of telling me how he was going out of his way to this distant location.
Then yesterday evening he sent some photos of his trip to said beach, going on about how great it was. Pics were only of the water not of himself or his companion but he kept using the word “we” and also said he’d be going back in 2 weeks, the next time he’s child free.
So more or less telling me he went there on a date and that they’re seeing each other. Which is fine, it’s none of my business!
I didn’t ask any questions about who he’d gone there with, just said it looked fab and I was glad he’d had good weather.
But I don’t understand why he made a point of contacting me to tell me this. As I had already stopped messaging him. I know he doesn’t want me. I am not pursuing him!
It feels unnecessary and a bit off and unkind somehow.
Maybe he hadn’t noticed that I’d stopped messaging him and he was just sharing photos as you would with a friend.
But if he was doing that then surely he’d openly mention the person he was with, at thats a normal thing to do when you’re telling people where you’ve been and so on.
I don’t get it. It feels mind gamey and I don’t know why he would do that to me, especially when I have stepped away. He’s made it clear he doesn’t want me so it’s not like he’d need me to be jealous.
Yes, I know I’m giving this more headspace than it needs.
I’m autistic so I do tend to brood about things.
When neurotypical people confuse me, I do spend ages trying to make sense of their behaviour. I think maybe I just needed to write this down and get it out.