should i reply to the text?

[thursdaymurderclub]

i'm friends with a lovely lady who has spent most of her adult life caring for very poorly parent, who sadly passed away a couple of years ago and she's very loney so started dating.

She's started a relationship with a man who admits that he has an 'on of' relationship with his ex.. so basically when he's off with his ex, he's on with my friend!

My friends knows my thoughts on the relationship but she really is so lonely she will basically take anything.

She was rushed to hospital a few days ago, and i've been looking after her while she recovers. She's sleeping mainly and just getting better but this man is bombarding her with messages! she's replied telling him she has been in Hospital, is ill etc.. but he simply won't accept this. Unknown to me, she's now given this man my mobile number (without my permission) and has asked that if he messages me, for me to tell him how poorly she has been!

Obviously I'm very unhappy that my mobile number has been passed, but it also puts me in a very awkward position. I realise she's poorly, and isn't in her right mind, but i just don't want to be dragged into this whole mess when i disagree with the relationship in the first place!

Advice needed

I wouldn’t get involved with this personally, when the first text arrives I’d just block his number.

Not really much of a drama, just reply and say "the situation is XYZ, and my friend will contact you as soon as she's better. I'd appreciate if you don't message either of us again as it's adding to an already stressful situation. Thanks and goodbye."

I’d just message back saying I’m sorry but this isn’t for you to get involved so please respect your privacy and wait fur your friend to contact him when she’s feeling better.

He sounds controlling and abusive. He shouldn’t need to double check with someone else about whether your friend is sick he should take her word for it.

I would be tempted to give him a piece of my mind. “Jesus Christ, she’s sick. Leave her alone. She’s not well enough to talk. When she is well enough, I am sure she will fill you in on the details. I did not give permission for you to have my number. Don’t contact me again.”

This is perfect.