I can’t believe I’m writing this as I never speak to hardly anyone about it but in the recently years I’ve just notice a shift in me and I could do with some advice. I don’t live near home and I haven’t done for years and the life I have now is so much more healthy for it. However it’s also given me time to reflect and open my eyes to certain family relationships, one with my parents mainly my mum. We message most weekly’s but she isn’t someone who likes to call often or FaceTime so that rare, but more recently I haven’t so much because her and my dad are going through a a separation and I think it will be a divorce. Since they’ve separated and starting seeing other people it’s been much more difficult then it was given to me and my sister, for context we both don’t live and home and adults now so our mainly concern was only their happiness not the fact they wanted to go separate ways. But one parent is using this time to make themselves better and enjoy life more and the other is going in a direction on money being tight and making decisions I wouldn’t really do (have tried to advise but didn’t matter). I have expressed how concerned I am about the money issue, offered to help but didn’t want it. Since the separation every conversation ends up being about nothing having the money for this or for that and truly makes me so sad. I can’t work out why the money is such an issue since the house is up for sale and the car was sold to pay off CC and the mortgage is covered by both. On top of this, said parent earns a really good salary. Anyway I have one parent call me up to vent and the other to mentions money and I just feel so stressed by it all. Since this I have my mother coming to visit for her 50th birthday which is what I wanted but have been getting anxious as I don’t want to have conversations of money of any of the situation going on because I feel I might snap emotionally. Anyone been through something similar? I feel terrible I feel this one, I’m a very loving person and I’m more annoyed that I get angry and upset by their behaviour.