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Ghosted.... now contact

9 replies

hls1984 · 06/08/2024 20:57

So a few months after going through a messy break up of my 18 year marriage ( and a 3 year old little boy) I met someone. We got on really well to the point I would say we also almost best friends. He has a little boy and also going through a divorce.
Anyway we have similar interests and talked for a few months, met up 3 times and had a great time, lots of chemistry and kissed etc . So this continued and after a seemingly normal text saying he would call the next day, I haven't heard off him again.
This was a couple of months ago. I messaged him twice and he has read them but never replied.
Anyway yesterday we got matched on a dating website and he has messaged and said 'hi, how are u!?!' but I don't think he knows who I am as no photos, however my profile is very specific in relation to certain things.
What should I do? I'm curious to know what happened as I can't get him out of my mind. Do I reply and play dull for a while or be up front straight away?
what do I do?

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autumn1610 · 06/08/2024 21:01

Well he hasn’t made contact with you specifically, he’s made contact with a faceless profile. 1) I would be wondering why any person would send a message to a profile clearly just in it to mess about 2) if you told him it was you do you think he wouldn’t ghost you again? 3) you may think your quite specific with things you have said he probably hasn’t even clicked. Leave it and move on don’t even message

Fandabbydaisy · 06/08/2024 21:23

Tbh if someone ghosted me and didn’t reply I would not want to try again. It’s up to you obviously but I would be to wary it would happen again.

78Summer · 06/08/2024 21:25

You sound like a wonderful person. A person who t ghosts is not worth your trouble and energy. I would delete and ignore.

Hoosemover · 06/08/2024 21:27

Block him and move on. He had his chance and he blew it.

His lost.

BCBird · 06/08/2024 21:30

Ignore. Block if necessary.

TheseBootsAreWalking · 06/08/2024 21:31

Listen, work on your self worth as this bloke wont, but what he will do, as he already has in the past, is disrespect your time, you, and generally who you are.

Starlightstarbright3 · 06/08/2024 21:34

The saying the best revenge is to move on with your life is very true in this case.

aCatCalledFawkes · 06/08/2024 21:34

Surely its going to become obvious when you swap numbers? I wouldn't do anything. If he wanted you he would of been in touch by now, anything else is just going to be awkward.

Watchkeys · 06/08/2024 21:36

Why would you 'play dull'? Why would you 'play' anything? What would be the point?

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