Been with my partner now DH for 5 years. We have toddler (2) and another on the way. We are always arguing about money. I inherited a lot of money and bought us a house before we got married. We have no mortgage. He is in the building trade and renovated the house. It's lovely. I work full time he runs his own business. We agreed to put half each into joint account for all bills etc and pay half nursery fees each, but I am always adding to this. Whenever I ask for more from him, it ends up in a row. I seem to be subbing food, and things for our DC. If I want to spend on myself, he often says what a waste of money. I have loaned him money to buy a vehicle for work. He wants to buy another car. I'm cross as he hasn't paid off the loan yet. He has the money saved so can afford the car. I just feel he's taking advantage. I am the higher earner and he is supportive in many other ways but as soon as the topic of money comes up it ends in tears. He won't discuss money at all really.
I am so upset as I thought this was sorted ( we've had a full and frank discussion several times, or so I thought) but I am now fuming he could be contemplating spending on a 'boy-racer' we don't need.
Way forward?
TIA