Parents and Alcohol

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Hi all, just looking for some advice and somewhere to vent really.
I am F30 and live with my husband close to my parents. They live in a lovely small village and retired a few years ago now.

I worry about them as they have hardly done anything since retiring. They have no weekly routine and spend so much time in the pub.
I always remember my parents drinking but this has become so much worse since retirement. I am 99% sure there is not a day in the week where they don’t drink and I am worried about them. My mum has always been particularly nasty to me when she drinks and it really upsets me.
Other people from the village have started to notice how often they are in the pub and make comments which I find really awkward and embarrassing.

I don’t feel confident enough to say anything to my parents as I know that they will become defensive and nasty as they don’t see it as a problem and see the pub as their social life. From what I’ve read online it seems that they could be classed as functioning alcoholics.

Has anyone else had a similar situation with their parents? 😢

Both my parents were alcoholics, got sober in their 60's then dry drunks so just as toxic. There is nothing you can do and it isn't your fault. Read the book adult children of alcoholics, it helped me detach from their chaos. It is embarrassing especially in a small village.
Just hope it doesn't get worse, alcoholism is downward spiral. I remember my dad standing at the bar in the posh village pub having pissed his pants, completely oblivious to everyone laughing at him. Getting in his car so drunk that someone would have to put his key in the ignition. My mum trying to chat up boys my age. I moved as far away as I could.
It took me years to learn it was their shame not mine. Don't cover for them/enable them, if anyone says anything just agree that your parents behavior is unacceptable but it's not your problem. People will start to avoid them.
You may want to find an Al-Anon online group.
I'm sorry you are going through this.

Yeah. Killed both of mine. 150 units a week easily.

Yeah. My dad.

Expect now he's disabled and needs operations, so he's not that bad after decades of drinking easily a crate of cider a night.
Now it's more like a crate between 2/3 days.