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I want to divorce

28 replies

Newliferequired · 06/08/2024 14:21

I want to divorce but I know my husband would not accept it. I want to stay in the family home with the kids as this is the best option for them. I feel stuck so am asking here for advice on how to approach it?

OP posts:

Cornflakes44 · 06/08/2024 20:29

C1N1C · 06/08/2024 20:12

This sounds like a cake and eat it situation.

You sound like you don't work and that in three years the kids are self sufficient (no?). So you've been a SAHM for all that time? And now that the kids are almost out, you want him to take care of you and the kids, and keep paying the mortgage?

To be honest, if I were a judge, I'd give the kids to him. He works, has the more secure situation, and is likely to provide for the kids the best. I wouldn't be looking at this from a male/female situation, better way of life for the kids wins.

(Unpopular opinion)

Wow. What a horrible message. You have no idea about OP, apart from her husband is a serial cheater. There are so many disgusting MRAs on Mumsnet these days, it's gross.

DavidBeckhamsrightfoot · 06/08/2024 20:45

What's his salary?
But you will also be expected to work
Post divorce he would not be expected to fund you, only what CMS state. He would be liable for half the mortgage until either the house is sold or you buy him out.

Nobody is going to give you a mortgage while you are unemployed.
I'm sorry he's so awful.
I'm sorry you've found yourself in such a helpless situation.

The courts don't care that he's a cunt

Divorce is solely a numbers game.

Frith2013 · 06/08/2024 20:53

If he has the children 50% of the time, he won't need to pay child maintenance.

It's on a sliding scale.

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