Sex on the second date

[Kitty05]

New to dating after being in a. Relationship for years

So signed up to online dating, felt it was time to meet someone new.
Had chatted with a few men but one stuck out pretty quickly. The chat flowed easily and we seemed to be looking for the same thing. We sat up on the phone chatting all night finally getting to sleep about 5am.
We made the decision to meet pretty quickly and ended up spending 6 hours together. Just laughing and talking, all we done was walk and talk and have some coffee. Could tell there was a spark there pretty quickly. I felt like I had known him years. At the end of the date we shared a kiss and agreed to see each other again.
Despite our lives we have made time to message and chat everyday.
Knowing he had his kids for a good part of this week I made the decision to invite him to mine for some food and a movie. In hindsight maybe we should have gone out but I felt comfortable enough inviting him over.
Anyway one thing led to another and we ended up having sex. We cuddled afterwards but he had to head home for work the next morning.
He text gooodnight and again good morning but I'm starting to think last night was a mistake. Not the date or seeing him again just letting things go so far so quickly. I've only ever had sex with significant partners and definitely not a one night stand kinda girl. We had discussed this before the date last night. I also told him I feel like a born again virgin since it's been so long since I was intimate.
Should I tell him how I'm feeling. I want to keep seeing him and we have arranged another date when his kids are away.
It's been so long since I've been in the dating game and I'm no longer a 20 something. How soon is normal for things to become sexual? I've always waited until I felt ready (granted I have never invited a date into my home so soon) and have always had the chat about us not seeing others etc.

Help!

Personally I prefer to know what's on offer before I get invested!! I met a man on a Saturday night.. No sex but kissing and touching at his en route home. Arranged a proper date for the Wednesday as he had tickets to a show. I needed to know...... Went to his the Monday and wasn't disappointed.. Been together 13 years. Married 8 with a dc!! Wined and dined all well and good but the sex might be rubbish!!

There's no hard and fast rules on how soon a relationship should turn sexual, sounds like it felt like the right moment and you have a nice connection.

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I am also in the need to know camp; it didn’t seem to put any of them off. If they subscribe to the whole ‘she fucked too early’ line of thinking they’re not someone I’d want to be with. After all, judging you for behaving the same as them, well, it’d be a timely and grateful cheerio to the misogynistic hypocrite. You sound like you two have something going on (particularly the fact you feel comfortable, and the marathon conversation) so I wouldn’t overthink it, personally, whatever happens will happen either way.

I did this a month or so ago and I felt the same way after. I felt a little bit jarred by it all and disappointed in myself tbh. But I have spent more time with him since, we have talked it through and had more sex since then. I now feel a bit more relaxed about it all as the sex is now in a nicer place (being cautious that it's only been a month) than it was before. We have also been out to the pub to just have a drink and not have sex. My initial fears I guess were around me not knowing him enough and ending up in a situation I didn't really want.

Thanks guys I think I feel a bit better about it all. I guess try before you buy is a good way of looking at it.

I think I'll speak to him about how I'm feeling. After all a good relationship is all about communication. Also have to have the chat about how I'm not comfortable with him still messaging on apps or seeing others.

Yeah I know it's too soon for all that but I'm a one man woman whether that's dating or not.

Wish me luck

Better to learn if you're sexually compatible before you get too invested I think!

Did you enjoy yourself? That's the only thing that matters really.

You'll hear all kinds of rubbish on here that men like the chase and that he'll probably ghost you or slow fade you now. It's bollocks. If he was likely to do that after 2 dates, then he's just as likely to do it after 10, and you'd have wasted more time on him.