Really need some advice

[Anno90]

I just need some advice not sure this is the right place to post, last week my son had some friends to sleep over it’s was late and they were all alseep in bed and me and my husband were in bed watching a film, he started to get in the mood but I told obviously we couldn’t do anything due to having other kids sleeping over, I fell asleep shortly after, I have found out this morning that he went to our bathroom in the night (en-suite) and sorted himself out which I haven’t got a problem with usually however I am concerned that this happened when there were other peoples children in the house, I mean they were all in bed asleep so were unaware of anything but he thinks I am over reacting

I definitely think you're overreacting. He was in a bathroom with a closed door. Even if they were awake you are overreacting. Sorry X

You are over reacting.

Huge overreaction.

Wouldn't bother me. If u didn't hear him, why.would they? People can be surprisingly quiet wen.the need to be.

Absolutely wouldn't concern me at all.
He was turned on and couldn't act on it, probably couldn't sleep, went to the bathroom to sort himself out.
No one heard, kids were perfectly fine, no worries :) and very normal I'm sure!

Thank you for your replies I thought i was overthinking I just wasn’t sure

You are over reacting.
Even if you helped him out how would the kids have known?

Why does it concern you? What's your fear?

Or perhaps you're upset because you thought the two of you had agreed not to do something, then he did it anyway? Is it actually about the sex aspect, or about the agreement being broken?

No that doesn’t bother me at all, I think I was just over worried as it he did it when we had other children staying over and I felt responsible for them but I think I’m just over reacting as like people have said they were asleep so wouldn’t be aware of anything

I don't know why you can't have sex or have a wank when you have other people's kids staying over, as long as it's done in private & away from the kids. 🤷🏻‍♀️

What did you think was going to happen, though? That he'd wail with pleasure so loudly they'd hear him? That one of them would just walk into the occupied en-suite (presumably via your bedroom) and see him doing it?

What's the actual problem scenario you're bothered about? Given that many people can do it in bed without waking their sleeping partner, why would children in the house be any kind of factor? Do you even know what bothers you about it? Some kind of wank-shame-type-thing? How were you raised to view sexuality? Shameful?

Lol at DH wailing with pleasure

(His wankery did not wake you up, why did you think the kids would hear?)

Haha I feel a bit daft now for posting I think I was just really over thinking it, I’m quite a deep sleeper and our bedroom door was open so I think I was just thinking the worst but none of the kids said anything so no harm done I suppose