Should I tell my friend I like him?

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He broke up with his very long term girlfriend 2 years ago. Around the same time his mum died. He hasn't dated anyone since then. I recently saw him on Hinge so it looks like he's ready to start dating again but his profile says "figuring out my dating goals" when asked what he's looking for (the other options are short term, long term etc) which is dating speak for not ready for anything serious.

Should I make a move now? I've always had a crush on him. He actually asked me out before he met his ex but I was young and stupid and said no. We've been friends for many years. He's a really good guy and while other men post-breakup might just start shagging around I don't think he's like that and even if he starts dating casually I think it's likely he'll end up in something serious.

On the other hand, he might just be dipping his toe in and really not be ready for anything serious (while I am) and I could be setting myself up for heartache!

What's worse? Never knowing and/or finding out too late that he liked you too or risking and it being awkward for a bit?

Yes! Def make a move. As you're both on the dating app can you message on there to make your feelings clear rather than awkward messages?

Go for it!

Do it! Good luck

Shoot your shot!

DON’T THROW AWAY YOUR SHOT!

Hahaha!

Oh God, I'm not sure if I'm brave enough to do this...

I do like a motivational phrase in a time like this.

You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

You've got to swing to hit.

Go for it! Fortune favours the brave.

Quick! He may already be dating someone else.

One of my favourite threads on here was a girl who did exactly that with her friend and they got together. You know he has considered you that way before so thats a good sign.

Best of luck

I read something earlier that said when your older you only regret the chances you didn't take, not the ones you do.. go for it!

What would be more painful, suggesting something wuth him.or hearing about his new girlfriend?

He may have seen me that way before but that was a long time ago. I'm sure he doesn't have a clue about the way that I feel now and sees me as just a friend. It's going to be so awkward bringing it up...

I would definitely be sad if he got with someone else!

Definitely ask him out!!

I think give him a like on hinge and see what happens. It's testing the water

He'd probably just think I was joking around!

He might not. It's either that or just straight out text him or not do anything and potentially miss out on him

Yes, would be good to minimise awkwardness. Maybe some clever MNers can work out how to do it in some kind of light, attractive way.

How often do you see him? In what context?

Hey I saw you were on hinge I hope this isn't cringe but do you want to see my...

OK maybe not quite that but.. just send him a message light and breezy asking if you can finally take him up on the offer of a date If its not three years too late?

God it seems I love a rhyme.. probably best I'm married

I'd call him a good friend rather than a close friend as I only see him once or twice a year probably. We have lots of mutual friends in common. At least I know it won't be awkward afterwards if he turns me down as I won't have to see him again for a while!

He asked me out around 15 years ago! I feel like it might be better to do this face to face?

Go for it .. he’s attracted to you as he’s asked you out before so it’s your turn to make the move

good luck 🤞

I think message is less awkward than f2f plus you might miss the boat if you wait to do it in person!! Bite the bullet and find out ! You've got to take a risk to get what you want in life! If he's not interested then you at least won't feel as bad in the long run as you would with what ifs!

A nice post for a change!

Yes, tell him, invite him out for a drink and look hot 😂 Sire you’ll make his day if he’s asked you out before you already know he finds you appealing. And let us know what happens!