What does ‘we’re seeing how it goes’ mean

[tallulahbriant]

I met a man 3 weeks ago at my friends birthday.

i am 28 and he’s 31. He just got out of an 8 year relationship, 4/5 months ago but was trying to end it for a long time.

We get on very very well and he said I’m the best looking girl he’s ever been on dates with. I’m concerned this is why he’s hanging out with me.

our dates have consisted of drinks and recently because we have just wanted to relax a lot of walks.

we have kissed but nothing else.

When I was drunk the other night I said so what’s going on! And he said we’re seeing how it’s going! Is that a bad thing?

his friend also said to me whilst she was drunk that she think it’s right person wrong time but also if we take it very slow it might be fine - although he’s never said this to me/she said that’s just her opinion.

I don’t want to get hurt - that’s all

With every relationship you have a good chance of getting hurt, most relationships end.

With a newly out of LTR man (under 2 years in my book) it can easily get complicated.

’See what happens’ means just that. You go out, get to know each other, have a nice time, and see if you have any long-term potential a couple of months down the line.

You’ll probably have people saying you need commitment and a clear idea of long-term plans at the start but I don’t subscribe to that. I start my relationships with ‘see what happens’ and make up my mind about where this could go a few months down the line once I know the person properly. So far it’s worked well.

He just probably won’t be able to tell you what he wants from the future considering he has experienced a lot of change this year and his life has been turned upside down. So if you want clear up front commitment that might be difficult to get under circumstances.

Take it slow and see what happens but look after yourself and your well-being/ needs.

Me and my fella were exclusive since the day we met. We where both single around a year and a ready for something.

He is not.

Yep, take it easy. I was the one coming out of a relationship, was upfront from the start, not looking for a relationship. He said ok, we’re now married 26 years