Stopped Affair - but Need support to not go back -

[raj135]

Hi All
Some facts:
I have a DWife and things been dull and boring. I dont feel good about me and she feels the same and sex life is zero.

I met someone got talking and we met 3 times at her place. It was great. It was perfect. She said she doenst wany anything serious and we meet when we can - Sounds Ideal!. She thinks im single.

So I enjoyed these 3 times at her place although it could have been 5 but i came to some senses and made excuses and didnt go. But then orgainsed another meet up as I wanted to feel the physical energy and her presence. So overall we meet 3 times to enjoy each other.

Each time i felt like it would be the last and that I got it out of my system - but within 24 hours i wanted her again. I Have noticed my work struggle, my relationships with my friends take a hit - my hobbies take a hit. I just crave that 'hit' and I feel that this is such a perfect setting where she just wants fun too and has her own place as well for privacy.

BUT - on Friday I said No more and that we should quit and that its been fun and amazing but I want something serious now - she was supportive and told me that she likes me and has enjoyed our company (not just the physical side) but also understands me - should would want to carry on but respect me for being honest with her.

However I feel like relapsing - anyone been through this and can offer their 2 pence worth - thanks

Get a divorce

Pretty much this. Leave your wife.

So OW thinks your single still? You need to be honest with her, at least....
You got to decide what you want. Seems it's not your wife. Right now it feels like it's the OW - but will that stand the test of actually being honest with her, and beyond? Whatever you do, you've got to start being honest with someone if you care about them at all.

This guy keeps posting the same thing over and over.

Your just looking someone to be ready to replace your wife so there's no void because you can't be alone.
Your wife deserves so much better than this. How would you feel if you found out she was having random sex with another man or she couldn't stop resisting the urge to want him instead of you! I don't have any sympathy for you I'm afraid. You should be focusing on reigniting the passion with the woman you chose to make a life and home with. I'm only 38 and I'm totally disgusted with how this generation is working within relationships. It's easy to run away and start all over with someone new it seems. Happened to me, so as someone who's been on the receiving end of shit behaviour like this I hope the grass isn't greener with the ow, and I'm hoping the ow is decent that when she finds out Your actually with someone she has the decency in her to tell you where to go

Own up to your wife and see her thoughts as to whether the marriage can be saved. Only fair she makes the decision on full facts.

You're playing a risky game. If your OW finds out you're married, she could tell your DW.

Your problem is that you are liar. You lie to the women closest to you. Do you lie to your male friends too? All your issues, dilemmas, your abject weakness and lack of self-respect stems from lying. Don't expect not to be miserable - it invariably goes with the territory.

Do your wife a favour and leave, but tell her the reason why. Also tell the OW the truth, that you are married and are cheating. At the moment you are lying to both women which is despicable behaviour.

Your poor wife

Oh you’re back again still lying and cheating? Did the advice given on the other threads not sink in.

Stop lying to two women, get your sordid arse off of dating apps and do the right thing ffs

@raj135 I recognise both your posting name and your post I'm sure.

God, you sound like such a prick. They’re both wasting their time with you. Relapsing…

“However I feel like relapsing - anyone been through this and can offer their 2 pence worth - thanks”

Just tell the woman you’ve been seeing your not actually single, then if she’s a decent human being… no matter how much you feel like relapsing she will tell you where to go for lying and the choice will be out of your hands

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My “2 pence” is that you should stop being a cheating prick. HTH.

Keep your trousers zipped and stop being such a dishonest cheating pr*ck!

Well aren’t you a prize? Leave your wife. Tell your girlfriend you’re married, and stop being a horrible lying cheating arse of a so called man. You are literally lying to someone just so she’ll have sex with you. Creep.