I’ve been seeing someone for around 3 months and I really like him, however he said from the start he didn’t want a relationship and we’ll see where things go with us. I don’t think either of us were expecting us to click as much as we did when we first met because it very quickly turned into spending all our free time together. About 2 months into seeing each other I gave him a key to my house as he only works round the corner and sometimes if we’re planning on seeing each other and I’m a bit further from home than he is he can just let himself in. I fully trust him in my home alone and around my belongings so that isn’t the issue but just to draw a picture of how quickly things escalated between us. We started arguing in person and on text recently and I came to the conclusion that we were spending too much time together and that we should have a break as we still barely know each other. At first he really wasn’t open to the idea as he “loves spending time with me” however he randomly changed his mind the morning after I mentioned the break. We didn’t see each other for 3/4 days which is the longest we’ve ever gone without seeing each other the full time we’ve been seeing each other. I was really upset during the break and missed him. Shortly into the break, I suggested calling the whole thing off as I realised I was wasting my time and he was fine with it which shocked me because if I’d ever mentioned us stopping seeing each other previously, he’d act upset. On the 4th day I messaged him to ask if he was definitely done with the situation of us seeing each other just for clarity and so I could try to forget about him, he replied saying he wasn’t 100% done and if I wanted to try again we could. Since that day we’ve seen each other every single day/night again and the arguments are starting to happen again. He’s again since our “break” reiterated that he still doesn’t want a relationship and he’s happy with how things are going. He is starting a new job next week where he’s going to be away Monday- Friday at a time and only home on weekends and I’m worried how I’ll cope so just wondering if it’s best to completely end things now before it gets worse. I feel like it’ll hit me like a ton of bricks if I carry on seeing him as much as I am and he suddenly is away for 5 days at a time. I also don’t think it’s him I’ll miss, I think I’ll miss the company. I came out of a relationship in December 2023, 4 months after giving birth to my daughter, and I feel I’d only just really started getting over my ex properly when I start seeing this new man, I’m afraid I’ve got so used to the company and If I stop seeing him I’ll be come depressed and lonely again which is the last thing I want as I need to be happy and strong for my children. (Also got an older son who has just turned 2)I want a relationship and he’s known this from the start but I was hoping I’d get to change his mind after he got to know me better. I worry I’m prohibiting myself from finding a proper partner who wants a future with me and not just someone who wants to stay at my house every night. I know intimacy probably comes into mind and that he’s just using me however we are rarely intimate. I feel completely comfortable around him and I do tell people I have a boyfriend if they ask, I’m staying loyal to him but I know im wasting my time by doing so when he doesn’t want anything from me. I’m confused because whenever I go to leave the room he immediately questions where I’m going or asks who I’m texting if I go on my phone. He also rarely wants to go out in public and do anything with me and if he ever agrees to it, it’s a chore to get him to come and the whole time we’re out he looks like he just doesn’t want to be there and wants to go home. If I ever approach it he says he’s just tired as he’s been at work but he always goes out with friends and never has any issues. Any advice please???