Platonic or not

[Ohdearyme72]

So I'm married. Met a guy through work - I was his client - living in different countries. We've had chit chats thru whatsapp - and see each other few times a year. Always makes effort to catch up 1:1. Last time he gave me big bear hugs after long chat about work, kids, health etc. Then get a text saying safe travels etc and hope to see you very soon. Platonic or not? I like him but boy, this is making me pretty emotional.

Well if you have progressed to hugs and he is making you " pretty emotional " it sounds as though your relationship is moving on from the platonic to something more.

Knock it off. Stop talking to him, unless your spouse knows and is happy for you to gush over another person.

You are playing with fire

You are playing with fire.
It sounds like an emotional affair; read it up.
If you want your marriage to remain intact, apply caution.

this is making me pretty emotional

How so?

He if so into you

Imagine this scenario:

You telling your spouse that you want a divorce.
You telling the colleague that you are in love with him.
You moving to the country where your colleague lives.
You live happily ever after with your new life partner.

Do you like this scenario?

Why is it making you ‘emotional’? Bar the ‘emotion’, it sounds like the kind of interaction I have with not close male friends/ acquaintances who live in other countries.

Well how would you feel if it was your husband and a female client? Have you told your husband about the hug, messages and how it’s made you feel? Imagine not.
Knock it off.

Thanks for the reality check - no I would not move countries (I lived in the country where he works for 20+yrs and even though we have family there, I would not move back). We are both married with kids and are in our late 40s. We'll knock this on the head.