H and I separated last summer after a very tough couple of years with big life events on both sides. Together for 15 years and two DC, two gos at couple counselling. He initiated it but I agreed we'd probably reached the end of the road. I was suspicious about an affair with someone he worked with but he flat out denied there was anyone else. He moved out into a flat on his own, no obvious signs of an OW coming into the picture.
We stayed on good terms and have coparented well, spent Christmas together and occasionally been shagging. Getting on better than we have for a while.
He approached me a couple of months ago about moving back in and trying again. I've been unsure but felt maybe it was worth a try to put the family back together, we've also both been having some individual therapy. He moved back in a couple of weeks ago. We've said to the DC that he's moved back in so we can have a chance to see if it can work again.
Then I saw an event in his iPad calendar (not snooping, helping DD with something) for this woman from work's birthday. I asked him about it and he said he couldn't remember putting it in, nothing to worry about etc, then turned it on me asking why I felt so threatened by her.
Something about this felt weird so tonight, while he's away, I have been snooping on his iPad and have found pictures of them together in his hidden folder as well as a video he sent her saying how he can be his whole self with her, I always made him feel shit and he's never felt so supported before as he does by her. I feel so fucking angry, horrible horrible lies. I can only guess that there was something going on, it's ended and that's why he wants to come crawling back.
He's talked throughout about putting the DC at the centre of everything and I just feel so awful and guilty for them, for getting their hopes up that we might repair things. I shouldn't have let him move back in but I was genuinely convinced that there was a chance to try again and commitment on both sides to this.
Thanks for reading if you've got this far. I want to send him so many angry messages but am just stewing for now.