Are you best friends with your partner?

[Fedup45]

Hi. I just wondered how many of you here would say your partner is your best friend? Quite a lot of happily married people I know say this and I'd love to have that kind of relationship myself. At the moment I'm very unhappily married and I wouldn't even say we are friends but I am seriously considering splitting.
I'd love to find someone in the future who was my best friend as well as a supportive, loving partner.

Yes, 11 years, 3 babies later. There is no one I'd rather spend time with than him. We've had some really testing times when I look back to losing my mum the support and patience he gave me was unwavering. I was a living nightmare ( understandably as he would agree) but not easy to be with. In hindsight I think I was having some sort of breakdown but afterwards when I quizzed him he would say ' I was just here waiting for you to come back to me and back to being more like yourself ' makes me sob to think about it

Yes, my partner is my best friend and he'd say the same. I have really good friends but my partner is the person I talk to about everything and have complete trust in. We've been together for 25 years, since university. In some ways were quite different but we have similar morals and have always had a very easy relationship. I don't think I could be in a long term relationship and not have my partner be my best friend.

If you're not happy and things can't be worked out, then split. You only get one life, don't spend it being miserable.

No he wasn't but I know the kind of couples you're talking about. There's a few couples at my kids school and I see them laughing and joking with each other, having coffee together after school drop off etc. It genuinely is a bit of a miracle to still like each other after having children so I think it's lovely to see.
And then there's some who post the'he's my best friend' stuff on Facebook and I think 'no, he isn't'.

No he isn’t. And I am not his.

We are very much in love. But we have friendships with other people that predate our own relationship.
My best friend is like my sister. I adore her but probably couldn’t live with her or spend as much time with her as I do Dp. They are different relationships and I wouldn’t swop any of them for the world. But I have been friends with her a long time, my relationship with dp wouldn’t change who she is in my life.

and to to be honest I couldn’t do with the pressure of being dps partner and best friend. I get some people like that. But after my marriage it’s not for me. I think his friendship with a group he has known since he was teen is great. They are an incredible group of people and incredibly supportive of each other. It’s a really lovely friendship that has benefitted them all.

That said dp is one of my favourite people. My kids have been away for a week and we had a wonderful week. He is definitely one of my favourite people to be around, along with my kids (teen and early twenties) and my best friend and her family.

Yes he is my best friend aswell as partner we been together 9 years now we talk about everything even if it’s not a great conversation I.e feeling unwell we share everything with each other I never had that connection with a ex

Partner is definitely my best friend, we do everything together. Don't get me wrong we've had our struggles especially after baby arrived, but we're back on track now. Do you spend plenty of time together? And do you have kids? Have you always been unhappy or this a new thing