Ex just wants to punish me and uses our daughter against me.

[orangeskys]

Hey everyone.

So my daughter's dad has been extremely hard work the last 2 years and he's been mentally draining me. He always says nasty things to me about taking her off me, he would get custody, he don't want her growing up round my other children, my parenting is shit and the list goes on.

He deliberately didn't have her Thursday to punish me because I got angry with the way he was talking to my other kids and I stuck up for them. I've not spoken to him since because he always lectures me about my parenting and how I should do this how I should do that and makes me feel shit all the time.

He was meant to have her today at 10 and 2 hours later he's messaging my brother the usual crap going on and on about my parenting and all the same old rubbish but has also demanded I bring her to him when he should of picked her up at 10. My brother has explained that I don't want to see him and he's just being a full on ass about it all. Well she won't get the break then, I won't have her she's the one who will suffer and all this crap.

I just don't know why he can't just be an adult and why he can't just be civil and not be soo awkward about it all. I'm soo tired and drained and I just want to go to bed and sleep but I can't.

It's always his way or no way, it's always about him and how he feels and it's always about his work. I've asked him to help out more in regards to having her the same time as my other children go to their dads soo I get the break I soo need and deserve but he won't do it. I'm just soo exhausted by it all now and I just don't want the constant drama and the agg.

I don't have any support from family or friends soo can't even ask them. I do it all alone and have done for the last 4 years since my ex husband left me for another woman. I just want to be happy and left alone and for him to help more but he won't he just wants to make things awkward and just be a complete asshole all the time. He never listens to me and he just turns and twists everything I say and makes it all about him all the time.

😔😩

I am going through similar circumstances. My ex refuses to have our 4 kids at the same time, taking 2 out at a time. He refuses to have them overnight and will not agree to a routine, just comes and picks up with minimum notice and drops off at his leisure. It’s the same with him, his way or no way. I totally get how u feel. I am getting to the point where i am gonna tell him he can’t see them unless he agrees to a routine so we all know where we stand.

I just don't get why they think they can do that and think it's ok. Us mums need a break too, it's hard work doing it alone and we need some well needed us time. It's always about him and I think really?

Thats soo wrong he don't take them all hun they're siblings do they not feel left out? I can see why you would feel like that in the end because your doing it alone anyways it's pointless him even having two then the other two when he feels like it. Like you said there needs to be routine and structure and you shouldn't always be on hold incase he wants to see them or wants to drop them. 🙄 what about your life? Your plans? Honestly these men.

It’s so frustrating isn’t it. He says his house isn’t big enough for all 4 to be there at the same time, but that’s just an exscuse. I also don’t get why they feel they can do
it, just come and go as they please. We do need a break at times. I am hoping my ex will see sense at some point, but that’s a big hope 😂😂