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Does he think I’m a scammer?

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Notsurewhatodohere · 03/08/2024 07:07

Hello, please could you give me a sanity check here. I matched with someone on bumble who seemed great, lots of common interests. I suggested meeting for a coffee and he then asked me if I was free the next day. I said yes, then he said his Dad was visiting and they were going out of town for part of the day and he wasn’t sure what time they'd be back but we should keep in touch in the day. I said sure but probably best if you text me as I don’t have the bumble app or data on my phone and I might be in town then I sent him my number. He then didn’t get in touch all day and in the evening deleted the conversation / match… So I’m wondering if he’s flakey, lost interest, got cold feet or if me asking him to text me and saying I don’t have data seemed dodgy? I’m 100% not a scammer. He has a well paid job so maybe he thought I was after his cash? Would you think it was weird if a date to asked you to text them as soon as you got chatting and said they didn’t have data? I have a decent income too I just don’t like phones…. Seems a real shame if that’s why he ended it, this was the first match I was keen to meet. I guess I’ll never know but it would be good to get a second opinion from MN as to whether I blew it? Thanks!

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Notsurewhatodohere · 03/08/2024 14:40

Oh dear that’s a shame, thanks everyone! Lesson learned. I do somewhat agree with the dodging a bullet comment though also because it was strange that "are you free tomorrow" was then followed by “I’m not sure when I’m going to be back lets keep in touch during the day.” If he was busy with his Dad in the day it might have been better to say that upfront and plan something for the evening so I wasn’t hanging around waiting. It probably was my no data comment that gave him the ick, he might not have thought I was a scammer just more of a dinosaur or broke. Also thanks for the advice about not getting attached to a profile that makes sense too! Onwards and upwards!

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