Feel like my boyfriend is being distant

[Ash2345f]

I’ve been with my partner for just coming up to 5 months everything has been great! I had a pre booked girls holiday to Ibiza before I met him which I have just got back from for 5 days. Before I went we spent the most amazing 24 hours together and it appeared everything was great. He then went to his parents with his child during the week I’ve been away communication on the first day was minimal at best I then addressed this and he started putting in more effort. However it feels like his communication style has completely changed I addressed this yesterday with him and he said he’s just been busy and getting on with things nothings changed his feelings are still the same loves me etc. am I overthinking this or is this a slow fade 😞 we are not able to see each other until late next week either so the disconnect feels real right now shall I just give him space & see what happens? For example he messaged last night asking what I was doing I replied then he didn’t get back to me.

Why don't you go and see him and ask for more from him, tell him you feel he doesn't communicate enough?

If he cares about you, he will respond positively.

He’s away until Sunday and then we haven’t met each others children yet so we have to wait until we’re both free back end of next week - we could try meet for coffee if we are working in the same place I suppose before this but that would mean me initiating that again. I have discussed this with him and he had started to be more responsive but still very hit and miss

He sounds like hard work.

Is he your boyfriend, or a guy you are seeing?

When you say he's away - is he abroad - or somewhere you could meet for coffee?

Need more context to understand the situation. need more context to advise better..😍

Um I don't know why I put that into emoji there

The trouble is with the slow fade, there’s absolutely nothing you can do about it. Sure you could have a conversation and he might step up his communication for a short time, but you can’t change his feelings unfortunately.
You need to decide if what he’s giving you is good enough.

No he’s my boyfriend he’s around 2 hours away at the minute so meeting up this week is not possible it could be when he’s back Monday but again I don’t want to initiate that. He said nothings changed in regards to his feelings and we have loads planned over the next 4 weeks so I think I’ll just have to see what Thursday is like and let him get on with the rest of the week see if he initiates the contact

You say he has a child. And it's the school holidays so I'd give him the benefit of the doubt that he's using this time to concentrate on their relationship. I think, like you are doing, I wouldn't try to initiate too much in this time and give him the space to do what he needs to as a dad and then see what he's like with you when they're back at school. Anything that could feel like pressure to him while he's with his child could come across as needy and demanding at this early stage of your relationship.